The Fucked-up Party Girls

The question you want to ask is what does adventure mean to *YOU*? The point of the exercise it to capture her attention and describe what is an adventure for YOU in such a way that it becomes an adventure for HER. You want to *lead* her state. You're the man, that's your job.

So, based on those definitions - what in your life has constituted an adventure? What have you done simply for the thrill of it and how did it make you feel? With the right mind-set going to the grocery store can be an adventure.

Keep in mind that noun adventure is a nominalization. I.O.W., you can't stuff it into a wheelbarrow and poke it with a stick. It's a mental process you go through. Pay attention to *HOW* you know you're having an adventure, and describe that for yourself. Once you can feel a state of adventure simply by listening to or reading a description of how you get there, you're ready to take your show on the road.

What does adventure mean to YOU, and how well can you describe doing that? The better you can answer the second question, the better you can take HER on an adventure.

You da man, you define adventure, and you describe it to her. YOU need to take HER emotions for a ride. You don't actually have to go do this shit, just talk about it properly.

Think about it, you can't go from standing in a dark, noisy nightclub to free-falling from an airplane, watching the ground rushing up at you, getting bigger and bigger each second, while you count down to pulling the rip cord. Knowing that when you pull that ripcord BANG! You're gonna get jerk up like nobody's business, but then it's easy. You're drifting down like a feather, still watching the ground come up to meet you except its coming up gently, like it's going to kiss you. Instead of roaring up at you to smash you into pulp. And the rush when you do that is fucking unbelievable. . . .

But you can talk about doing that in such a way that she feels that kind of rush. If you don't skydive, never have and never will - pick something else.

It takes a little work up front. The beauty of it is, once you do that work - you're set. You can trot out that story over and over and over again.

Sasha: Yeaaah.... that sounds goooood. why don't you give it to her since you know what she reeeaaaallllyyy wants :)

I often get approached by these girls, because I'm seen with other HBs, so they want in on the action. But if I open my mouth and start dropping patterns or anything, she's gone in a hearbeat because that shit's boring to her.

Sasha: That brings to a quick conclusion, patterns have to be used differently in different contexts.

 Formhandle: So stop dropping patterns on those types of girls.

Anyone have any good advice on landing party girls?

Formhandle: Yeah, uh, give them what you've figured out they want (read above).  I don't get it.  How can you have possibly written this post and not already worked through your own answer?

There have to be good routines--they'd have to be physical ones--that can be simply done to show that you can give them the adventure they crave that night.

Formhandle: Just do what you're doing and lay on the fun (teasing, heavy kino, kissing, etc, etc.)  I'm not particularly interested in this type of chick unless she's really hot and not shielded big-time, but here's an example of something that happened the other night:

I headed to a downtown crowded bar with a couple of wings.  We walk around, it's shoulder-to-shoulder congestion in there, but obviously a "party" crowd.  NEar a wall, I stand behind a petite HB (maybe 8) who was with a WARPIG, my back is to her, while I chat with my wings.

I overhear some bits of convo and I figure out that she's a bar newbie and kinda in excitement mode so at one point I move away from the wall and approach her and ask (while the song "Love Shack" is playing, right when they keep repeating "love shack, baby, love shack" and she's getting into it) "Hey, what song is this?"  She seems confused and then says "Love Shack!"  I give her this perplexed look and then say "Love Shack?  Never heard it before!"  Then I laugh and lean in and tell her "Actually, I know the song - it's one of my favorites."  That gives me an opportunity to give kino on the arm and talk in her ear.  Then I ask her what the appeal of this bar is and she says she's never been to it before but it seems fun.  Then the WARPIG starts CBing me and asking me stupid questions and I begin to disable that obstacle while still keeping some attention on the HB.