Christian Bones: I have already created the folders in my computer and am working on filling them up now.
Grab your favorite stuff, test out some of your own tactics, figure out your most interesting stories, and put whatever can work for you under each heading. Now you know exactly what to do, and how to escalate. Work on proceeding one step at a time, and come back here and seek advice for each sticking point. The secret, as you see, is sometimes simply knowing WHAT TO SAY/DO and WHEN TO SAY/DO IT.
MrMorg: The best approach IMO is making a humorous observance of the environment. some goofballs clothes, the bird that just shit on a car, the awesome meal you just ate, and try to lead it into an open ended question, not a "yes"/"no" question, avoid those at all cost. Then practice working in techniques.
NGarwood: I'm a newbie so take this with a grain of salt... I've found that "Hi" and "How're you doing?" are both fantastic ways to go nowhere really fast (if you're a newbie). The PUAs can claim that it's all attitude (and it *is*) but your attitude will never surface unless you have something to say. Commenting on the environment is good; an open ended question asking for her opinion is also good. In my limited newbie experience, I've found that in order to get to the point where "Hi" is all you need,you have to start with a more concrete plan.
Juggler: Yes you are right. However, the phrase you need to learn is, "How are you?" not "How are you doing."
"How are you?" is a great opener. But it is the follow up which makes it great.
You: "How are you?"
Her: "Fine."
You: "You know, it's kind of rude not to ask how I am after I asked how you are."
Her: "Okay, how are you?"
You: "I am wonderful. You would not believe what I have been doing today. Have you ever been involved in something really dangerous and after it was over you had an incredible high, as if you just had the most intense sex? Well today I..."
You have to be ready to deliver 90% of the conversation. If you look for that magic subject that will get her opening up and sharing with you her innermost desires you are going to be disappointed. Realize, you can take almost any opening and with creativity turn it into gold. Just remember that she will not give you help until you warm her up. Until then you are all alone.
