I feel depressed and sad

newlearner05 wrote

I feel depressed, and i feel i aint making any progress.

I've tried going out a few times sarging without much success, the success i've accumulated nothing turned out from it, when i get into sets i always froze up or stall out.

Now i'm experiencing a huge internal problem, i tend to respond slow to social interactions. Whenever someone says something to me i simply ignore it or dont say anything because my voice is locked in my internal state. Whenever i try approaching women my voice wont come out naturally, it just is locked in my chest even though i want to say something, hence some sets i dont approach due to this exact reason... i feel depressed, all i want is a good nice girlfriend, someone i can enjoy my time with, someone who i can emotionally connect to, someone who i can like, someone who likes me and respects me.

All my life, i've never had anyway like me for me. I feel i wont ever be successful with women. I've tried everything i can, i took workshop, i've gotten myself out of my comfort zone and approached women, i've joined hobbies, i want to better myself as a person. I want to have a girlfriend who is beautiful outside and inside. Nothing seems to working...

I might as well end up killing myself, what is there to live for? Everyone is friendly and supportive towards me, even today a potential girlfriend calls me, but now i feel like i dont want to meet her because i dont deserve anyone's love or support.

What am i supposed to do. Why am i like this? Should i end everything now?

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Golgo wrote

Promise me, before you end your pitiful existence, to take a trip.

Go to Japan (Osaka is nice) and fuck young J-girls in love hotels.

(no skill required)

Do that for a while, and you'll see how enjoyable life can be.

Just, when the girl of your dreams finds you, (and she will find you) DO NOT MARRY HER. Come back here, and we'll talk some more.

Now go.

Take care,
G13

(Any English teaching gig will pay the bills. They're easy to come by)

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Tristram90 wrote

newlearner05 wrote:
>I feel depressed, and i feel i
>aint making any progress.

I'm sure if we looked at it objectively, factually we would be able to find SOME progress. Depression tends to warp your perception. Trust me I have been there. When I was poor, very poor, I got very depressed. I sought help. Like you I laid my troubles at the lack of a good woman. I whined to the therapist, ALL women want is a rich man. He had one word for me. ALL? that one simple question, let me know that my perception was WACKED. You have made progress. maybe not as fast as others, but I bet if you look you will find some progress.

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>I've tried going out a few
>times sarging without much
>success,

What is your definition of success? If you have never
approached woman before, then saying HI to every woman
you see, hell every person you see IS SUCCESS. thats
stage one. If you definition of success is getting
a fools mate with a playboy playmate ,
Then you are holding the bar too high. This is a common
mistake that depressed people make.

the success i've
>accumulated nothing turned out
>from it, when i get into sets
>i always froze up or stall
>out.

What is your definition of success? If you have never approached woman before, then saying HI to every woman you see, hell every person you see IS SUCCESS. thats stage one. If you definition of success is getting a fools mate with a playboy playmate , Then you are holding the bar too high. This is a common mistake that depressed people make.

>
>Now i'm experiencing a huge
>internal problem, i tend to
>respond slow to social
>interactions. Whenever someone
>says something to me i simply
>ignore it or dont say anything
>because my voice is locked in