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What is wrong with me? 200 approaches no date?

Be real with yourself as you look for material, ask yourself if those routines are something you really want to use. If something is telling you it is a good routine and you think it would be fun to use in set, then field test it. As you gain more and more experience with what works for you you will gain more and more confidence and

game.You don't have to use only canned stuff, when you are in set gauge their reactions to what you are saying then keep the stuff that they reacted well to.
Also try direct sometimes and indirect sometimes.

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j&b wrote
200 approaches is nothing.. Read the archives, a lot of really good puas didn't start getting results till 500 approaches. You think you've done something w 200 approaches? When you've got 2000 under your belt then start worrying.

Relax, you should be happy that you can approach. your only source of happiness should be that you're trying your best, and that means that taking the approaches as an ongoing lifestyle. Results will happen when you're ready for them, but you've got to keep pushing against the stream until it happens, that's the only thing that any of us can say that we've achieved. Not how many lays ornumbers we've gotten.

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formhandle wrote
You asked whether to take a BB or MM workshop on 10/17 (1 month ago). I'm presuming you took a workshop within a week or so and started posting ORs in the Field Reports board by the end of the month, barely 3 weeks ago. Within a few days of that you got down on yourself which put you in a negative loop, but it seems you otherwise have (had?) been actively "sarging", out approaching chicks and talking to them and at least trying to progress. So, between about 4 weeks ago and maybe 2 weeks ago was when you were actively sarging, and most of the past 2 weeks it seems you've not been. At the same time you've also been asking questions about products yet stopped sharing your field experiences (good or bad, doesn't matter, I hate when people think everyone here only wants people to post "success" reports).

So with that picture it seems:

1. Your biggest problem is when you THINK you're being productive you're simply burning yourself out. Seems you did most of your 200 approaches in the first 2 weeks in the field (for real). That's a lot for a beginner. Honestly, there is such a thing as over-sarging, especially for people not yet socially calibrated and burning themselves out with an effort solely on getting laid (I'm guessing that's on your mind in a big way when heading out).

2. You're not sharing enough of your actual interactions in the Field Reports board. I don't mean outing reports that simply state you were in the field and approached some chicks, but a full detailed breakdown of your interaction so that guys can provide explicit feedback on what you need to improve specifically versus just motivational "get out there & do it boy" advice.

3. You initially are seeking your answers in products when, in fact, this web site 1000x has more than any newbie could ever need to get himself started in the right direction (when taking a workshop would be of more help).

Many times I don't understand why someone would take a high-cost workshop or even a seminar when they have yet to deal with being able to approach chicks regularly and get beyond social anxieties. You found a Lair & maybe some wingmen, you should be out more often on a more consistent basis but you should also not be drowning yourself in PU which will burn you out and give you the wrong mindset.

4. I bet since you started all this you began to neglect important things like your health, sleep, and balancing your day with more mundane (yet necessary) efforts.

This is your second "woe is me" whine in 24 hours. You are just whining and you're really not doing anything about it because you're not paying attention to REALITY and are living almost entirely in your head. You need to wake up and step back and get a REAL picture of what you are doing and how you should be working to improve your situation.


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