How To #Close

1) Tell her I'll call her tomorrow *to chat*. Ask when the best time to call is, when we can just talk for a while. 2) Tell her I'll call her THAT NIGHT when she's getting ready for bed to wish her a good night. (Thanks, Mystery)

HOW TO #CLOSE:

Remember, first of all, that the # is merely a bridge to a future meet and nothing more. It is a logistical necessity, not game. Your GOAL should never be to #close the girl.

The most important thing is to make sure you aren't SUPPLICATING or BEGGING her for her number. Make it mutual or HER idea. Ideally, you will have gamed her well enough that she will OFFER her number.

When YOU end the interaction (because you have sensed that she is about to end it or because the logistics don't work to escalate any further, NOT because you just want the #!), and she DOESN'T offer her number, you should try to LEAD her to suggest it.

Here is my all-time favorite #close routine for quick #closes. The idea is to act totally clueless and force HER to tell you how to #lose her.

"Man, if only there were some way that we could stay in touch. I mean, this is the 21st century, you'd think someone would have figured out a way for us to talk even when we're not together... God, this is so complicated..." and continue until she says, "Do you want my number?"

If she doesn't offer, pull out YOUR cell-phone and say, "Hmmm... I wonder if this strange device could help us..." Continue with C&F until she gives you the number.

Ideally, however, when you get the number you'll have enough attraction AND rapport to make it mutual. There won't be any need to "trick" her into giving you the number. Either way, once you get the number and she leaves, you're going to have to phone game her the SAME WAY.

PHONE GAME LOGISTICS

I always do one of two things when I get a #, before I leave:

1) Tell her I'll call her tomorrow *to chat*. Ask when the best time to call is, when we can just talk for a while.

2) Tell her I'll call her THAT NIGHT when she's getting ready for bed to wish her a good night. (Thanks, Mystery)

When I call them THAT NIGHT, I simply continue gaming them where I left off. She's usually still in state or quickly regains it, and it's SUPER easy to build comfort over the phone. I also use Mystery's visualization technique. (DAFS, I think he posted it) Tell her to imagine you lying next to her in her bed while you talk, and then tucking her in to sleep. Expand on that, but you get the idea.

When I call the next day, I make a rule to NOT suggest a meet. Of course I try to TRAP her into suggesting one. I use the same phone game structure I will describe for RE-GAMING over the phone.

WHEN SHE DOESN'T ANSWER

If she doesn't answer my calls, I make a rule of calling no more than twice a day every other day. In fact, I usually forget to call even this much because I have OPTIONS. I also sometimes use TD's call, hang up if the answering machine comes on, and call back immediately. It works every now and then, and I don't think it gets a BAD reaction.

Always remember that some girls ARE busy. Don't get yourself all worked up if she doesn't answer the phone. It's easy to lose confidence in your sarge when you don't talk to her. REJECT those self defeating thoughts of "She must not have been interested." You WILL talk to her again. She WILL remember you. She will be HAPPY you called and it will be EASY to talk to her on the phone.

I will call for a WEEK following this rule, and if I still can't get in touch, I'll call from a different number. House phone if I used the cell phone, friends phone, pay phone, etc. What I usually do is: Call from cell phone for a week, call from house phone for a week, call from friends phone a few times, stop calling for a couple weeks. At this point, I usually have forgotten about her completely if not before. Sometimes I'll call random girls months later to practice my phone game.

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