Phone Rules

IX. Try to be the person who says goodbye and ends the conversation first. You're busy; you've got things to do.

6. If She's Too Busy…

If someone I'm talking to ever turns down an invitation because she's too busy, I repeat a line I learned from David D'Angelo, "Break your plans. We're more fun."

This, of course, never convinces her, but it does generally get a laugh and appreciation and increase her likelihood of wanting to hang out next time.

If she continues to be flaky about plans, this means you're doing something wrong and it's time to look at your approach and phone game. At some point in the interaction, you have most likely conveyed desperation and/or lower value. Figure out when and why this is, and eliminate it from your game. In a few rare cases, if you're doing everything right but she's still flaky, she may have a boyfriend or still be getting over one.

I never accept "too busy" as a regular excuse. I always think to myself, "If Angelina Jolie called and invited you to a dinner she's having at her house with Bono, Jay-Z, and Brad Pitt, you would be there no matter how busy you were or what plans you have."

So my goal in an interaction is to be so interesting and such a rare find that she'll never be too busy or booked for me. I mean, if you met the perfect 10, wouldn't you manage to "find the time" for her?

So be the perfect 10.

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