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The first phone can be one of the most anxiety-laden moments of a pickup.
You've had a successful interaction with a woman and exchanged numbers, but now what?
What if you she's forgotten you?
What if you're too nervous on the phone and blow it?
What if she's busy on the day you want to see her?
What if a guy answers the phone?
What if she's given you a wrong number entirely?
Don't worry about it.
The fact is, if you get out of your head, the first phone call can be a very easy and simple thing. You may receive a lot of conflicting advice and opinions on the phone call – and much of it does work -- but this is the way I do it and have always done it.
2. How Long to Wait
How long are you supposed to wait between getting the number and making the call?
Some say call the next day; others say wait three days.
They're all wrong.
There is no fixed amount of time you need to wait.
Rather, here's how long you wait: As long as you possibly can.
In other words, if you meet a woman and make an amazing connection and she begs you to call her, you can wait as long as a week. She's not going to forget you.
However, if you meet a woman, talk for a few minutes, exchange numbers, and afterward you see her talking to different guys all night, you're going to have to call her the next day. Because you didn't make that deep of a connection or impression, within 48 she's going to have forgotten all about you.
So the general rule on phone calls is, to quote David D'Angelo, "Don't let the line go slack." Simply call her while your interaction is still fresh in her head, but not so soon that she thinks you're a stalker.
3. To Block or Not To Block? To Message or Not To Message?
When I first joined the seduction community, many guys advised blocking your phone number when calling a woman and not leaving a message.
The idea, they explained, is that you will eventually "trap" her on the phone when she answers and convince her to see you.
I don't use or recommend this crowbar method, unless you're a telemarketer. The fact is: If she's not taking your calls, it means that you didn't do your job properly during the interaction.
So I NEVER block my calls and I ALWAYS leave messages. Why? Because it shows confidence. If I did my job properly when approaching her – and displayed personality and value and conveyed trust – she's going to be excited when I call. I try to leave every interaction with the woman worried, "What if he doesn't call."
In addition, if you've seeded your event properly, she'll know just what you're calling about and will be comfortable taking the call.
If she's not calling you back or taking your calls, the problem is not with your phone game; it's with your approach game, because you didn't convey the qualities necessary for her to WANT to see you again.
4. When To Text
Personally, I never like to text for the first interaction. It shows a lack of confidence, and to a small percentage of women this can be a deal-breaker.
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