When do I call

"When do I call?" "How often should I call?" Phone, cell, numbers, digits. Dates.

I'll give you my $0.02 on calls and scheduling. Here's some ground rules:

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1 ) I always wait a day.

"So you mean call her tomorrow?" No, like tomorrow, then a day. "So like 2 days." Yeah I guess you could call it two days. Two days is really industry standard. [/swingers]
Anyway, I get the number one day, I do nothing the next day, I call the day after that. If you SERIOUSLY nailed the game the day you met her, and she seemed really into you, or you even managed to hook up right there at first meet, then you can skip this waiting and call her late the next day (anywhere from late afternoon on to evening, just not first thing in the morning). But only if you really killed it, not like you brought your A-Game, I'm talking you brought your S-Game.

2 ) If you wanna do something that night, make it sound spontaneous.

Otherwise, plan something for the day after or two days after. But have an idea of your activity/meeting before you call so you can deliver it smoothly like you know what you're doing. If you're thinking about something for a later day, see rule #5.

3 ) Keep it short.

Tell her the plan and keep small talk to a minimum.
If you're going to be interacting, you want as much of it as possible to be face-to-face for kino, body language, etc. those are the key to communicating and building attraction. Talk over the phone is wasted talk because you can't do the other attraction building keys, as well as phone-talk is wussy. OBs don't have time to waste on the phone, alphas have enough time to schedule the chick in to talk to, but still not wasting time on the phone.

4 ) TELL her the plan, don't ask.

"Hey, I'm in the mood for a chai latte, come meet me at the Starbucks on Main St. at 8, k?" Not "Hey! Would you like to go to Starbucks tonight? Can you make it at 8?" Being courteous to see what her schedule is is good, maybe offering different options, "I'd like to go at 8, but I can also go at 10. Either of those better for you?" but still posed like it's your plan and not asking, as opposed to "When are you available for coffee? I can just wait until you're ready, or I can go whenever." The more telling not asking - while not being a dick, sometimes a hard balance - the better you'll be. You want to be leading like an alpha, not supplicating like an IW.

5 ) Make the plans for weekdays or Sundays, not Fridays or Saturdays if you can help it.

I like to give her the impression or otherwise hint that those days are reserved for my close friends or girls I'm more interested in. If you have fun on Day2 (c.r. Mystery Method/mASF) then she can graduate to weekends. But otherwise, you need to make sure she knows or gets the idea that your life is totally happenin' and you have an active social life that's simply a tad too busy to let some n00b chick walk in on it on the important days of the social week. This is for OB points. (I expect BillyDee to fight me as to the "wisdom" on this one.) If you're gonna deliver this idea to her though, make sure it's done a little more subtly. Such as "Mm, can't hang with you Friday night, that's my bowling night with the guys, and then we're going to a keg party when the alley closes. Saturday's no good either, I got a prior engagement with someone else." Yeah that's right, "prior engagement" "someone else", gender? A mystery. Yeah, let it bug her. This works better than, "Sorry babe, my social life is too busy rocking on Friday and Saturday, but I'll let you have Sunday night." Egotistical is a fun and sometimes effective avenue of humor, but this is just pompous, not to mention trying too hard. You don't want to be direct on this one, or letting her know that the placing of her day is strategic, it needs to look natural.