Nine Steps to a Solid Day 2

It seems that a common sticking point for a lot of guys is that they get talking to a girl, things are going well, they like her, and then they just say goodbye. Or other times, they get her number, or even set up a date, but the girl never shows up, and

Fake numbers, flakes, girls losing interest, excuses: "I'm busy washing my cat."…

Our goal here isn't just to talk to women and then never see them again. So, let's talk about how to make something happen beyond the first encounter.

One option is to just say goodbye and hope you will see her again. Unless she goes to your high school, or sits two cubicles away from you at work… you WON'T see her again. So, forget it.

Now, a lot of guys realize that they have to do something, so they get her phone number or email. And then they'll get excited because they think they just scored with that girl. You "got the digits" - you're The Man. Right? …Wrong. Guys who know what they're doing with women realize that phone numbers don't mean anything. Girls often give out their numbers (or even fake numbers), with no intention of ever seeing the guy again.

Simply getting her contact information leaves a lot of work to be done on the phone (or email.) You'll be stuck wondering if she will pick up the phone, if you should leave a message, if you should wait three days, or five?… You won't be sure if anything will ever come of it. Just getting a phone number should ONLY be done when there are serious time constraints. If you only have 3 minutes to work your magic, then go for it - at least you can try. Otherwise, *never* settle for just a phone number.

Another option is to continue the interaction, and ideally, get her home the same day you meet her. Venue changing and getting her to an isolated location will be valuable for a number of obvious reasons. However, it's very common that a guy doesn't have the time or the means of getting her to an isolated place the same day. It's a great option, but it's a topic for another discussion.

So, if you want to end an interaction with a woman and you want to see her again, the answer is simple: Make solid plans to meet again. We'll call it a "day 2", since we don't want it falling in to the stereotype of a "date". This includes plans for what you're going to do and when you're going to do it. And, of course, it includes getting her phone number. After you've made plans, it will be obvious that you need her number, and she will never refuse it.

The goal is to set plans when your with her that are so solid, that she will show up at the next point in time when you meet again. Then, the seduction will continue. But, if you can't cross the gap in time you won't be able to continue.

When I've made solid plans for a day 2 with a girl and I‘ve done everything right, I can almost guarantee that she will show up. When I'm done, I won't be left wondering what's going to happen, and neither will she. Setting up a day 2 is so much better than settling for a phone number. If you can't convince her to meet you in person… how will you be able to do it over the phone? You will have her in front of you, and you can judge her reactions. The better you get at calibrating a girl's reactions, the better you will be at making sure she is committed to meet you again.

Why do girls flake?

In order to eliminate flakes, it's important to know why girls are flaking. Here are the main reasons:

** They were never really convinced, or never really committed to it. Often people agree to something, but don't really intend to do it. Maybe, she likes the day 2 plans at the time, but later she will forget about it, or forget why she said yes. The fact is she never really intended to go. Or, she could be lazy and when the time comes to meet you, she just feels like staying home instead.