Inviting the girl over to your place

The following strategy is designed to eliminate any possible second-thoughts she might have before she ever has them. For that purpose you will have to give her what Jobet Claudio from Mindlist calls The Mental Escape Hatch:

When closing the deal with a woman, always, and always, and always provide her Mental Escape Hatch. More often than not a woman will have an internal conflict about fucking with someone who's not her boyfriend or husband. This may stem mostly from societal programming and no woman will want to have herself labelled as a tramp, either by herself or by society.

Thus it is incumbent upon you to create a Mental Escape Hatch for a woman. In simpler words, give her an EXCUSE to have sex with you. In effect, she must be able to retain her self-worth even after she's had the tremendous experience of doing it with you. And you do that by creating a mental escape hatch, an excuse, or a scapegoat upon which she can point blame as to why it happenned. That excuse can range from the lame to the profound, but it doesn't matter too much. Just do it and give her an excuse - give her an excuse to fuck you.

For example, if you wanna take her to your place, you aint gonna tell her: Hey, lets go to my place and fuck. In her mind, an alarm goes off saying Yea! I wanna um Tramp! Tramp! Tramp!

The right way to do it is to present something that could be interesting to her. Hey wanna see my Picasso collection (owws?) I've got a wonderful collection of rare love music in my pad wanna listen to them and maybe we'll go for a nightcap then I'll walk you home (subtitle: in the morning)?

Then of course there's alcohol. A great excuse for many. You drink a couple of glasses of wine. You fire off your NLS routine. She falls for it and you make love on the couch. In the morning, she can always tell herself Ohhmust have been the wine. Great huh? A mental escape hatch. An internal excuse.

What's the mechanics of this? What does it do? It allows her by shifting responsibility to someone or something else other than herself, to retain her self-steem. And if you know what you're doing, don't and I mean DON'T try to break down her excuse. More often than not, the mere fact that she did it with you one time is already an excuse for her to do it again. By then, the psychological barriers have been broken down.

Mental Escape Hatches can be used in the pre- and post-fuck stages. As a pre-fuck routine, it disarms resistance by presenting different motives other than sex. As a post-fuck routine, it ensures that the woman won't feel bad about doing it and you wont get something akin to buyers remorse.

For example, with one of my partners, I asked her Hey I've got Sleepless in Seattle at home. Wanna watch a home movie with me? There'll be popcorn and some wine. She went. We did it. Mentally, she would say to herself We never intended to do it we just went there to watch a movie, but I got so swept away by my emotions from the film so when he kissed me it just felt so right