No, you're not going to ask for a date

author:          "Ross Jeffries"
date:             Fri 3 August 2002 20:18 GMT
website:       www.speedseduction.biz
subject:         No, you're not going to ask for a date...Also, you let her know how your emotions took control of you and that is why you couldn't stand it if you didn't ring her...

No, you're not going to ask for a date. Movies, dinners (or. museums, anyone?) are for girls that have convinced you that they want you in a most believeable fashion - by having done the fun with you (and I don't mean playing Monopoly.

But let's say you have  number - or closed a girl. You need to get in contact with her again, right? You could of course do patterns over the phone and have her rush horny to your doorstep. But it is infinitely better to meet her in person. So what you do, is suggest a get-together, preferably somewhere where you two can talk, see each other and touch each other undisturbed.

Just as your pick-up attempt must look like anything but a pick-up attempt, so must your asking for a date be anything but that. For that purpose it is recommended not to ask her for a get-together on a Friday or a Saturday night. Not that you shouldn't do it, but the time itself suggests a more date-like occasion, an image which is better avoided. If you nevertheless decide in favour of a Friday of Saturday night, keep in mind that the odds of her being busy are higher than on other nights, so she may have to turn you down, which could create some bad vibes. And it might tell her that you don't have anything (or anyone to do on the weekend (so don't forget to serve it as the only few moments of free time in your schedule.

On the other hand, the benefits of arranging a meeting during the week are as follows (Don Diebel

•   You imply that you are busy on the weekend. In other words, you are involved with other girls.

•   The odds of her being available are greater.

•   Weeknights imply a casual, no-pressure atmosphere which is good to get to know her (or rather, to get her to get to know you.

•   You have turned a dull weeknight into a good time for her - good vibes right off the bat.

Now that we've cleared that the date in asking for a date is not a date but a get-together, its time to reveal that neither is the asking but suggesting. You don't ask her for anything. You're giving her opportunities (like you didn't ask for her phone-number, you constructed her an opportunity of giving it to you). And you are just making suggestions (We should meet  or  get-together. How about then and there?). Don't make the mistake of putting her on the pedestal and grovelling before her begging and asking please-please-please will you go out with me?, oh please let's go on a date?, oh please please do cum with me! If you ASK her to go out with you and she says no, she won't even give it another thought (and don't be fooled by any excuses she might be giving you). But if you SUGGEST a casual meeting and offer her a time and place, she'll first have to think, what she's doing at that time, and if it turns out she's busy (she might very well be), she is much more likely to offer another time and  or  or another place. Either way, you're much more likely to get yourself your get-together.

If however you sense some reluctance on her part nevertheless (maybe some other time, no, my schedule if full till next year etc), you need to take out the big guns (no, not those, pull up your pants! It seems like time for patterning, negging, value-eliciting or whatever seems more appropriate with her over the phone. Ask her is she has a little time to talk to you now. Even if it has been her earnest attempt to LJBF you and blow you off, she might feel just a little guilty about it and agree to talk to you for a few minutes. And now you've got her

But all through this process remember, you don't NEED her. If she's smart enough, she knows a good thing when she sees (or hears one. But if she just consistently seems to be wasting your time, heck, you've got some 50 more phone-numbers waiting in line to be called

In a situation when you have acquired the phone number of a girl that you are or have become interested in in business circumstances (as opposed to having acquired her number to call her in a matter of a more personal nature), you can still turn this around for you by using the following advice from Johnny Shack. Whether you have become in possession of her number as either one of you being a representative, salesman or clerk of some sort and after you're sure that you and her will most probably not be conducting any business in the future (becacause you know what they say about mixing work and personal life), you can call her with the following (by Johnny Shack):