This is where it gets tricky. There is another internal hardwired motivator circuit that 'seems' to get in the way. It seems to contradict the first emotion (see our internal motivator circuits are very well calibrated to the dynamics of social life - you are a fucking fined tuned engine - these emotions will indicate to you what is most important whenever it gets in a situation it KNOWS (through years of natural selection) is important to your genes' survival. So when you meet a girl that is ugly, nothing happens. You can walk up and say shit easily because you have nothing to lose. (In fact, because this is so easy, I suggest meeting lots of ugly women to start your day because it gets you rolling and you can always make friends - they might have a sister or a party to invite you to) . But when a beautiful girl is near, your brain will give you a STATE-CHANGE. A state is an emotional state like lonely or anger or HORNY. This horny state is really a painful bitch to deal with. This is what all the pick up artists talk about when they discuss STATE-CHANGES. When you watch titanic, even though its all fake it can make us cry. That is a state change. And just by SEEING a pretty girl you have a STATE-CHANGE. Now, this state isnt really horniess. Horny is when you have a boner. If you dont have an erection, the state isnt horny. Its some other state and Im not even sure what to call it. We could call it AQUIRED or LOCKED-ON or even better AWARE. When she is there and you want to talk to her you are MORE than nervous, you are AWARE. Pulse quickens, I personally feels a wonderful sensation of butterflies in my stomach (still to this day - even yesterday when I met Tat) and your mind races for 'things to say'. Right?
Imagine this: if you could CONTROL the two emotions LONELY and AWARE, if you could become MASTER of these and HARNESS their power, like the way you have mastered hunger, do you think you would be able to 'fill your stomach'? I swear to all of you, I am a pretty rational guy. I am guided by reason and humanity and not by mythical being or forces. Im 26 and Im not a horny asshole player. I love life and care for people and have close friends and think things through. There was a time I couldnt 'GET' girls. I had such a low self-esteem and I was 20 before I had my first kiss. Or was I 21? fuck, anyway ... so I snapped. I thought, "Dude, you've got to get GOOD at this. This is too stressful. This seems like a very important thing to solve." I figured that I could hope that a relationship would drop in my lap and I wouldnt ever have to deal with getting good at picking up girls. I considered how if I already had a girl Id be happy and wouldnt have to chase. But then I thought, "NO! I have to MASTER this for a LIFETIME. Im not going to marry the first girl I meet. That isnt realistic? Im young, I cant KEEP a girlfriend when I dont know anything about them. Prioritize your needs and values. Put girls up there with sleep and food and stop abstaining from things that should be in your life as matter of fact.
I just got an ICQ message from a friend now >>i've discovered today a new place to find girls.... =) ANY pet store! HOLY CRAP i walk in and i was surronded. I asked the person working there if u could hold a little black puppy, she hands it to me and these girls all flock around me =)
Cool, that I think is a VERY good place to hang out - you'll have to come up with a really good sequence of interactive scripting to initiate with the girls so your approach has context. Something like, "Isnt he cute? What would you name him if he was yours? He looks like a George ... or maybe a herman. What would you name ME if you brought me home. If I followed you home, would you keep me?" Something along those lines. Tell her youve been working on your puppy dog eyes and ask her to critique them.
ICQ GUY>>well nothing much since i had to leave fast... but basicly i walked in and picked up the cutest puppy... then i taked with 3 hot girls about how much i wanted to PLAY with it and HUG it and so on... PLus i smiled and handed to a couple of them... One of them though i was so sweet since i said that when i got enough money i was going to buy it... Yea! hehe but they were all like 22-28 years old.. none of them would ahve looked at me twice in the going out sense... oh well. It was a cheap thrill while it lasted =P
