Interviewing for High Self-Esteem Women

HSE women know exactly what they want in a man, and when they find one enjoy who he is.

LSE women are quick to obtain their man's tokens of devotion, such as expensive gifts or immediately requiring a monogamous relationship.

HSE women are suspicious of expensive gifts early on, and do not decide that they want a relationship with the man until she gets to know him well.

LSE women would steal a man if it would give her affirmation. HSE women are not at all interested in another woman's man.

LSE women trade sex for attention and for verification that they are attractive and worthy.

For HSE women, sex is about sharing and celebrating sexuality.

LSE women respond to being treated poorly in an attempt to prove their worthiness.

HSE women expect to be treated well and respond only to that.

For a LSE woman, it's not about the man, it's about her own needs. For a HSE woman, it's about what her and her man enjoy together.

LSE women blame their problems on other people. They have the victim mentality. HSE women assume personal responsibility for their own lot in life.

LSE women are motivated by moving away from bad. HSE women are motivated by moving towards good.

LSE women must control others by manipulation. HSE women see that as unhealthy.

LSE women are drama queens. HSE women seek harmony.

LSE women have a warped sense of deservedness. HSE women have a healthy sense of deservedness.

Self-esteem is formed early in life and takes years to develop. A woman's biggest influence in her developing years are her parents, and it is her father that has the most important influence. It is through him that she acquires the ability, or lack of ability, to have an emotionally healthy relationship with men.

A woman who had a close relationship with her father when she was a little girl is what I call a 'Daddy's Girl.' Her father was loving and caring. He believed in her and supported her. He taught her to be self reliant, independent, and to believe in herself. He may have even taught her how to throw a baseball or throw a punch. She thus grew up with a high self-esteem, a healthy relationship with men, and a good sense of deservedness. She is thus emotionally healthy and believes that she deserves to be treated well by men. Interestingly, she is also very skilled at influencing men and making a man feel emotionally close to her.

Her relationship with her father goes through stages. As a little girl, she loves him dearly and looks up to him. When the taboo instinct sets in at about age 14, she becomes independent from him and sees him as the biggest dork in the world. By the time she matures into the age of legal adult, she again adores him and cares about him dearly. But at any age, she always wants him to see her as innocent and pure, and she wants him to continue to be proud of her.

This is in contrast to another woman who had a condescending or absent father. Such a woman is incapable of forming a deep emotional bond with a man. She has a bottomless pit of emotional need that can never be filled. She believes that she deserves to be treated poorly by men, though she expects being showered with attention and material gifts. She is often spotted in the company of men that view women as objects.

Her relationship with her mother is also important. I have known daddy's girls who had mothers that were total emotional basket cases and made very bad decisions for themselves. In those cases, the young women tend to make bad decisions for themselves. To a large extent, women tend to repeat the same successes or failures of their mothers. Such daddy's girls display some of the typical traits of a daddy's girl, but they make mistakes such as having no direction in life. The very best women are those who had two good parents in a good relationship.

A Daddy's Girl has a good sense of deservedness. Deservedness is what a woman believes she deserves for herself. She believes that she deserves to experience wonderful pleasure, and she believes that she deserves you. She will be your best ally. She will be routing for you.