About Lying

author:          "Jugglar"
date:             Tue, 17 Feb 2003 19:00:00 GMT
website:        www.charismarts.com.
subject:        About Lying, ...The point is not that you are hyping the details of your life. AVOID TALKING ABOUT DETAILS...

>Unfortunately, AWG, I utterly disagree with that statement. While also
>agreeing with it to some extent (it is always good to be confident in who
>you are, etc.) it simply won't be enough for most of us. Women aren't going to respond positively to men who are >very capable of talking in a way to make the most of their lame-ass
>warehouse job, flabby belly, and 1992 Oldsmobile station wagon. (So to speak.)

The point is not that you are hyping the details of your life. AVOID TALKING ABOUT DETAILS. The point is you are packaging your desires, personality, experiences and motivations into sellable stories, expressions, routines, etc.

Having said that, if they ask, I tell them I am broke, I drive a compact car and my job provides little security. And yes I do know how to make the most of these things. Being broke becomes a NEG. Driving a little car is a chance for humor (I'm tall) And my job - well it is very creative. I do exactly what you say women would not respond to D and do, what you might call 'fairly well' with the girls. :)

But returning to the subject. One of my favorite things to tell girls is about a vivid dream I had years ago which is still imprinted in my memory. I view it as a premonition. It's about how I dreamt one day I will have a small house on the beach, a lovely wife and two beautiful blonde daughters. We have fires on the beach at night and we are really happy. I really think this will be my life one day. The point is not to put the girl in a mood or any of that. I really enjoy telling people about this because it says a lot about me and what I want out of life.

Now, if I instead make up a story of some dream that would impress a girl or get her horny, maybe it would work to accomplish that purpose but it would not further my skill at relating what I really want, my focus in life or my alpha-ness. It would be a short term gain at the sacrifice of long term progress.

>Rather, the art of the lie is the
>act of demonstrating to her that you can
>participate in a fantasy.

First of all, there is no 'art' to lying. Telling a fib is easy. Making the truth exciting is art.

Secondly, to her you and your life might as well be a fantasy. Instead of bringing her into an unreal fantasy, you can bring her into the fantasy which is the real you.

>You know that the mind encompasses both reality
>and unreality. You know that things
>will always be better in the fantasy
>universe, and you know how to access
>that universe and make it tick for her, give her pleasure, increase her
>REAL awareness of how great life can be.
>You touch her emotions, and even
>if they are fantasized feelings, she still feels them.

It is much more satisfying for you to touch her emotions with the truth.

>Pick up isn't about giving women what they say they want. It isn't about giving women what they think they want. >But it also isn't about giving
>women what they actually DO want, either.
>It's about giving women what they
>respond to, and bringing about that response that you want to bring about.

Pick up is not about her. It is about YOU. It should always be about improving your skills. Lies make pick-up easier. You should be trying to make pick-up harder. Like lifting weights.

>You are not a man who is required to
>live his life in order to please other people.

It is not about pleasing her. It is about being able to be the real you. That is the alphaness so many guys search for. It is the ability to confidently put the real you out there.

But the point is that you should be up front and real about the important stuff because that is important to YOU. You get what you ask for. The question most guys should spend much more time on - that will pay off bigger than time spent coming up with clever patterns is, "What do you really want?" When you can answer that then you will have a good base to begin from. That is where you should begin. Not, "What will get her feeling horny?".