The Sex in Oriental Hot Tub House

WH: "I understand. You were busy. Sometimes meeting new people and forming connections gets put on the back burner when you're trying to get your life in order."

This achieves a few things:
-Shows you are understanding and cool and not angry or spiteful.
-Frames it as her getting her life together so that she can connect with you.
(Her raising value to meet you)
-Presupposes she is now ready to form a new connection with you.
-Demonstrates that we both have good values and have priorities in our lives straight.

I got back from NYC this past weekend after having an RSI orientation. Target called me that night, about 2AM, and we talked for 3 hours. I did some pregaming during this time.

Some excerpts:

Girl: "I'm getting fat." (Looking for me to qualify her, tell her she's hot)
WH: "Oh, really. Jeez... that's too bad." (instead of qualifying, I accept and reinforce her frame of unattractiveness)
Girl: "Yeah I need to work out. Do you work out?" (Girl trying to screen me)
WH: "Nahh. I'm not in great shape or anything, pretty skinny actually."
(Verbalization of lower value)
Girl: "Oh, we can fix that."
WH: "Why, are you a good cook?" (reversing frame, to screen her)
Girl: "Yeah I'm pretty good." (Girl bites on it)
WH: "Oh yeah, what can you make?" (amplifying screening frame)

Girl: "Some guy I met today was asking me why I don't have a boyfriend, he couldn't believe it." (Demonstrating value, but I see it as qualifying herself to me)
WH: "I understand, guys are so boring these days. I have a friend who tells me the same thing. This girl is gorgeous, but guys just come up to her and say things like "Wow, you're so hot" unable to do anything to make a real connection. And then there's the other guys that are players that just want to use her for sex." (Basically telling her I understand her reality and I'm neither a boring guy who is incapable of talking to her nor a player.

Girl: "What did you like about me when you saw me?" (Testing me to see if I'll say the same thing as the 99% of other guys)
WH: "The way you carry yourself. You're just so comfortable with yourself. A kind of relaxed confidence. It's very attractive."
Girl: "Really? That sounds good."
WH: "You know.. I meet so many girls who play games. But you don't have time for that bullshit. You're so real and genuine." (more qualification to make her feel special and unique, and that I see her for what she truly is)

WH: "Have you ever been to (city nearby)? No? You have to. Come out here and I'll show you. We'll have a very romantic evening. You'll love it. We'll go to dinner, walk around the city and then I'll have a special surprise for you. Oh, and dress really formal, wear a sexy dress for me, ok?"
Girl: "Ok, what time?"

This demonstrates my current M.O.
1. Use conversation to induce screening frame.
2. Amplify screening frame, qualify and compliment her from a position of power.
3. Escalate and close.

I close by suggesting she drive out to see me, and I tell her what to wear. I imply an extremely romantic evening that will end with a "surprise". (Bit of an open loop) The surprise is that I will take her to a real classy joint I know that has hot tub rooms for rent. It's really a beautiful place, decorated in an old japanese style, a very romantic setting. There's even hot tubs on the rooftop (They're private and isolated, because of the architecture) where you can sit with a beautiful view of the moonlit sky. It's nice even in the winter because the heat from the water warms up the surrounding area. I take quite a few girls there nowadays, and I swear the employees at that place think I hire hookers.

Since she doesn't know that's where we're headed, she won't be bringing a bathing suit. ;)