Keep mystery

Intro

Billydee wrote: "When the keg is empty, the party's over."

Explanation

Usually, I use that term to explain why guys must try not to have complete diarehha of the mouth--not to share EVERYTHING about himself. The girl will get bored, etc. I don't care how well you tell a joke or story or theory or use your seduction techniques on a girl. She WILL get eventually lose the feeling of novelty to you. That's why it's important to switch things up all of the time, have parts of you remain a mystery for as long as possible, etc. How many girls say they like guys who are, "spontaneous"? Guess what? If you routinely whisk her away to a, "surprise romantic weekend," if you routinely do shocking things in public, if you routinely act in an OB manner--she will view you as UN-spontaneous even though the individual actions might be viewed as spontaneous/exciting in-and-of-themselves.

If a woman likes you, she will dig and dig to find out EVERY LAST BIT of information about you in an effort to discover what you're about. Just like a oil driller trying to get every last drop of oil out of the well. The problem is, once that well is fully drained---she'll want to move on to the NEXT one. That's why mystery is important. Not that anybody should LIE at all. But be funny & jokingly avoid giving her every answer she wants. Don't spill your guts. Ration your inner self out to her so that she has to KEEP COMING BACK to the well.

RedSeraph, you're 100% right. It CAN be viewed from the flip-side as well.

The same can go for women. If they share EVERYTHING sexually with a guy then the guy eventually gets bored, no matter HOW HOT the girl is. Granted the hotter the girl and/or the more adventureous the girl, and the MORE she can DRAW out the adventureous nature (not in a prude way, but in a tempting way), the longer the sexual, "newness," will last. So even after you've done your "10" girlfriend anally in an glass elevator while she's wearing a french maid outfit eating out some other girl for the 50th time, even THAT shit starts to get old and you'll want to move on. Even if it's just missionary w/ a new "8." That's because no matter how exotic/exciting the sex is with the, "10," the man cannot escape the deep-seeded evolutionary feeling that he's farmed that field one-too-many times. He's done his duty, his seed is needed elsewhere, and he should just let the old field fallow (for another guy, or maybe to return to later himself---the female equivalent of the, "Gatsby Plan," (because sex w/ an ex-GF after an absence of a few years can make the sex feel, "new," again.

Think about it. You're at a party w/ a Guiness keg and top shelf vodka. The booze runs out. There is a house party next door w/ a full keg of Natty Light. What are you gonna likely do?

That's right---go next door and start drinking the Natty Light. Unless, of course, you want to just call it a night, eat greasy food & crash for a long night's rest--hoping that you don't wake up w/ a hangover.

So, the solution to all of this is to either:

Accept that the keg will run dry & realize that the party has to end at some point. (aka, accept a faithful marriage w/ a mediocre/boring/non-existant sex life), but hope that once you wake up the next morning, the house that hosted the party has still SOME redeeming qualities to make you want to stay. That's why, if you get married, it's SO IMPORTANT that you actually LIKE the girl you marry--her personality, intellect, values, does she work hard, is she a team-player, etc. Because you have to make sure that WHEN the party is over, you are still cool w/ hanging out w/ the host the next day. And the day after. And the day after that, etc.
Embrace a life of party-hopping without ever committing to any single party. (aka, never settle down and/or settle down but cheat on your wife, etc.).
Try to go to the next house party, while hoping to still be able to come back & crash at the original house party you were at w/ your friends. (aka, marry a girl & cheat on her, or marry her & try to get her to be OK with mistresses and/or swinging or "open marriage," arrangements). The problem with this one is it usually blows up in your face and everything comes crashing down.

I think most guys who don't think just go straight for #1. Then they're pissed when they marry the first OK looking girl that gave them attention. Most normal guys with forethought go for #2 at first, then when they've had their fill, they go for #1, being confident that at least they had a little of #2 when they were younger. Most alpha guys usually go for #2 or #3. A rare breed of guys will straight-up try for the #3 scenario, but most will ultimately fail. A golden few succeed to have it all without jealousy getting in the way, etc.

By Billydee