Mutual Value Escalation

10/10, gentlemen. When you deliver a compliment well (that's where the game comes in), you increase your value and hers... and yours MORE.

There's an art to this, of course. It's possible to give a compliment that's supplicative. That raises her value a tiny bit, and lowers yours a lot. Same with perceived supplication. But imagine, if you will, that a Tom Cruise-esque guy walks up to a girl, looks deeply into her eyes, and tells her that she carries herself so gracefully that he had to come speak with her. Guess what? She's positively glowing, and his value has only gotten higher.

And if you're picking up everyone around you, you're getting social proofed too. Higher social status. More people want to be around you. It's cyclical.

DIMITRI, GIVE ME THE TECH ALREADY!

Sure. When saying or doing anything in the game, be PROCESS ORIENTED, NOT RESULTS ORIENTED. That means, do what you feel, and shrug at what happens. When the night is over, it's good to analytically look at what happened, and adjust. Maybe even take a couple minutes while you're in the men's room to think over how things have been going. But instead of taking a technical aspect, it's important to bring what you feel, and what you want. That means go with what you want to go with, not what you've been told to go with. If any given compliment/remark/story/whatever gets negative results, you shrug at the moment, because you did the process as best as you could. You improve the process later, as you can, but in the moment, you live it and love it. And that shrug if someone disapproves is usually enough to make it glaze over and no matter, anyway.

Deliver everything from a position of power and authority. When you state something that you think, your position isn't going to change based on what they think or say. So you give a girl a compliment on her rhetro-yellow skirt. She says she hates it but has nothing else to wear. You shrug, or maybe say, "Meh, I still like it" and keep going. You don't take back what you've said, because it's true. Likewise, if she starts glowing, you don't go on and on about it: You've said what you have to say, now keep moving. The authority part means you're not tentative. If you give her a compliment, you might leave a normal social pause in there to see if she thanks you or says something in particular, but after that half-second or so, you just do/say what you want to. You don't stand and wait for her to decide what she wants to do with you.

Judging: Everyone judges all the time, whether they admit it or not. Even a person who prides themself on being non-judgmental still makes spot assessments of everything they see. Well, I say take it to the forefront. Be conscious of the fact that you're always judging, and do so. It's what the concept of screening is all about: And I don't mean pretending to screen. See if she's what you actually want. Practice is great and all, but at some point, you gotta start getting what you want and deserve.

So far, we've covered the basic mindsets and attitudes of Mutual Value Escalation. You come from a position of power and authority, objectively realize and consciously judge her actions to see if you like her and what she's doing, and then you stay process oriented: You don't let what others think/do affect you if you're giving it your best.

DISRESPECT:

There's a lot of rude people in the world. If I had to guess, I'd say there's probably an equal number of rude men and rude women, but in a lot of western countries, you see blatant disrespect by women to a lot of men.

So, you're out in the club, you see a girl wearing a ruby-colored, shimmering red dress. Long, soft blond hair and a pearl necklace framing her perfect neck. You go to talk to her, and she's rude!

What has she done? Well, if she wants you (and she will soon if not already, my friends, rest assured) she's played shitty game. But you can't blame her, Cosmo and The Rules are really the blind leading the blind.

She doesn't know any better. Someone would do well to point her to my MVETheory, but in the meantime, you'd better deal with this.