Guide to Direct Game

V. Openers There are 3 different types of openers I use: 1. Hi, how are you? 2. You are beautiful. I would like to get to know you / May I join you? (Shark) 3. That shirt... (Wait for response) It absolutely looks great with your style! (Credit for this type of opener goes to Razorjack)

Your non verbal communication should be congruent with your interest. Of course your overall intention is clear in all three of these. Remember SIMULTANEOUS SEXUAL AND PLATONIC INTEREST. Deliver the opener and continue to vibing.

VI. Vibing and Connection

A. Traditional Rapport Vibing Vibing is about the energy of the moment. The feel of the interaction rather than the content. Vibing with a girl makes her feel like you have a natural connection. It is talking about ANYTHING or telling stories or jokes, even talking about work. YES you can talk about your work if you can VIBE. It is charging your interactions with emotion and tension.

B. Storytelling / Demonstrations of value. Typical storytelling and DHV models apply here quite nicely. I usually point people to Wilder's storytelling post as a guide.

C. Screening Vibing should have a screening feel to it. By demonstrating that you are selective, have other options, but are CHOOSING HER, you create immense value for yourself and qualify her at the same time. See Neo-Rio's recent screening post for more of this.

D. C+F (??) There is a debate whether or not you can use C+F and other slightly invalidating techniques in a direct framework. I DO use C+F with my direct method. There's two things to remember. Firstly, the success of C+F is more girl-dependent than style-dependent. (Then again girls are also-style dependent, but less so.) If a girl responds well to C+F, I'll use it. Secondly, the way to use C+F is in a gentle, playful frame. Your frame cannot be - "I'm doing this to increase attraction." more - "I'm giving her the gift of laughter because I care about her." Your words may be slightly invalidating, but FUNNY and you say it with a WARM tonality and set of facial expressions.

VII. Qualification Qualification is a HUGE part of direct game. It's great to qualify on non-physical things like her sense of style, her humor, or the fact that she is real and genuine. The key to qualification is TO BE CONGRUENT WITH THE DELIVERY. When you tell her you feel more comfortable with her than any other girls you have met recently, your tonality, bodylanguage and actions BETTER BACK IT UP. Furthermore, having an incredible vibe with a girl is actually more effective than anything you can SAY to her. You are telling her you like her, and she believes you because she feels the same way!

VIII. Timing / Persistence / Space

I try to describe the timing for contacts and meets as "cool persistence". You are up front about your sexual and platonic interest, but you're not too attached to the outcome. It is being persistent on your timetable, and not giving too much importance to one particular chick. In general, see her once or twice a week and call two or three times a week. Once you have reached conversion, she will make the efforts to contact and see you, and it won't matter what you do anymore. But before conversion, if she is disrespectfully non-responsive to your messages and calls, give her a break for a few weeks and try again.

Do not fear that persistence will come across as needy. It is not the techniques of direct game which lowers your value. The thing that lowers your value is telegraphing neediness. Any subcommunication of lower grade emotions such as fear, anger, resentment, or hostility through your tonality or actions will do this. As long as you take measures to cleanse yourself of these negative emotions, your communication will come across as powerful and confident.

Being physically persistent when in a girls presence CAN come off as needy if you are all over her and not playful enough. Also showing the abovementioned negative emotions while being physically persistent will hurt you in that respect. Best to physically advance with absolute certainty she will enjoy it. And if she doesn't - don't let it affect your state. Chill out, enjoy yourself and try again later.