How to get laid in the next month or two

16. If and when logistics prohibit going further, THEN you can take contact information. But here's the deal - Numbers aren't worth ANYTHING. What you're looking to do is MEET THE GIRL again. So, you first suggest an activity to do together, then when she agrees, dictate how to get her contact info.

YOU decide, you're the man, show some balls and leadership and delegate. So don't say "How will we get a hold of each other?" because she's going to suggest stupid stuff like myspace at least 20% of the time. So say, "Wow I'm having a blast with you. (her: me too) A cool new exhibit just opened up at PSOne and I've been meaning to check it out. You should come with. (her: sounds fun) Cool, got a number I can reach you at?"

After you get her number, do this always: Here, I'm going to hit dial on my phone so my number shows up on your caller ID. Hit dial on your phone, but DO NOT RAISE IT TO YOUR EAR. Just hold it in front of you. She'll probably take her phone out of her purse, then make sure you can spell each other's names.

17. Text her before you ever call her.

A good text is fun, short, and doesn't ask for a response or ask a question. I've been texting a girl back and forth on and off for a week now and we haven't called each other yet. She texted me "hi hon. whats up".

I wrote back, "My ex gf just emailed me saying she misses me and theres a hole in her heart since i left. poor girl. dont know what to write. :\"

This is actually true in my life, and just an example. But yeah, she called after that, and that first thing she asked was, "Who broke up with who?" Nosy fucking girls. ("I broke up with her." "Why?" "I don't know." "What do you mean you don't know?!? You don't know why you broke up with a girl?" "Well... We do stuff for lots of reasons y'know? I guess... I thought we'd both be happier if we weren't together." - was the rest of the beginning of the conversation, for the curious)

Make sure you text her within 2 days of meeting her, tops. Same day or early next day are both good.

18. Send her texts once a day until she responds. Skip a day here and there. If she doesn't respond after 5-6 texts across 10 days, wait a week and text again.

19. Once she texts you back, keep it short and sweet some more. Don't answer her questions, write what you want to write. Make it vaguely relevant to the conversation. Or even not.

20. When you talk, talk as friends for a bit. Don't try to make plans until at least the second time you talk to her on the phone, unless she's really hurting to or asking about it.

21. When you make plans, it should fall into one of two categories - Laid back hanging out, or her tagging along with you. Remember Vinny's Three C's of Dating:

*Cheap: Inexpensive
*Convenient: For you, in terms of time and effort
*Conversation: Be able to converse during it

That pretty much rules out dinner and a movie... Make all your dates such that if she doesn't show up at all, it's no inconvenience and doesn't even suck.

Remember to maintain all the earlier stuff on your date. Be positive, treat her as a friend, make her do things and get compliance from her.

Now... you're in good shape.

At this point, you're a person that'll appeal to at least some women, you can meet women in social environments, and you know what to do on dates. You're being laid back, you're not pushy, you're very chill. Zenlike. In fact, you're being precisely Zen - In the moment. You're not focused on getting tail or acting like a loser who hasn't been laid since the 70's.

Here's how to escalate.

22. The first thing you need before you EVER try to escalate is what's called "incidental kino". There's, incidentally, three good kinds of kino - Playful, protective, and incidental. They're all fairly self-explanatory, and all have different good uses. But only one is necessary. This is - Incidental.