Why Negs Work And What People Are Doing Wrong

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Originally Posted by Bayroot
GAMEBOY, I feel like you gave off the impression that you should be WAITING for reactions to negs. This is incorrect. 

 
Hey Bayroot

That's not what I was saying.

I'll clarify:

When I said;

Quote: Originally Posted by GameBoy

"If you want to seem natural - and include a validation point - you have to pause between the two or wait for a response."

The key point is when you want to include a validation point.

The classic Mystery Neg

M: Are those nails real?

HB: No.

M: Oh... well they still look good.

Follows this structure. (*With one notable difference.)

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Originally Posted by Hatman/MuayThai
This isn't a backhanded compliment so it can't be a neg and may be interpreted as an insult straight off the bat, and that's why I added in the compliment bit so the formulation is 
 

Is "You blink a lot." a backhanded compliment? Not that I can tell, but it is a classic Neg example.

This returns me to the original text and topic-flow:

It is apparent that Neg-Theory is an unfinished (or, at the very least, unrefined) concept.

By looking at how Negs work we can derive a new language and understanding about this concept.

Perhaps Negs should only represent a backhanded compliment.

How then do statements fit into the picture?

EG: You blink a lot or the (primarily online-only) It's good that you posted that picture.

What about 2 part routines - which work better as initial target interaction:

"Is your hair real?"

"Are your nails real?"

Rhetorical questions like: 'Is she always like this? How do you roll with her?' Fall into the Active Disinterest category - or Implied Lower Value (ILV)

By using the same term (Neg) to describe many different techniques, a lot of people are becoming confused. For ease-of-understanding: Lets breakdown what Negs are - how we see them - what kinds of negs there are - and why they work. From there, we can rebuild it into a stronger and easier-to-understand foundation.

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