Opening-Related Issue

Of course, it is preferable to approach at an angle, over the shoulder, and with your body language turned away. This allows us to get much closer without activating the response. Also, try opening while walking by the girl or group - the very fact that it initially looks like you're about to leave will help reduce her feelings of discomfort.

However, make sure you eventually turn and face her or them! Don't be one minute into the conversation, and still talking over your shoulder. That looks weird.

THEY DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO AFTER THE OPENER

Some of the most interesting situations arise when a bootcamp student starts to "get it" during the first night and is able to open seamlessly and consistently. Some of them think they've then won the grand prize. I always feel badly if I have to tell them that all they've done is figured out the first – and easiest – of the nine phases of the Mystery Method. Like I said above, successfully opening is like successfully unlocking the car door. It's necessary, but then you have to get in the car and drive. But after a few dozen successful openers, you won't even think about it anyway, the same way you don't even think about unlocking your car door. (The analogy holds for other phases of the Mystery Method too…I'm generally on autopilot until about 10 minutes into the set, when I have to shift from attraction to comfort.

The biggest thing to remember is to keep talking after the opener, and JUMP TO A NEW THREAD. Openers are great for starting conversations, but terrible for building attraction. As soon as you have opened successfully, start talking about something that will get her interested in you. Don't stand there like a dummy unlocking the car door all day. Get in the damn thing and drive!

In the beginning you are going to have to do most of the talking. While you are leading the conversation, you may start to see IOIs ( Indicators of Interest) from the girl/s. These can be as simple as them investing energy in the conversation or asking you questions. And now we're in a whole new topic….

That's it for now. Feedback welcome.

Cheers