Vincent Chase On Body Language

author:         "Vincent Chase"
date:            Tue, 3 April 2005 03:16:00 GMT
website:      http://wwv.themysterymethod.com
subject:     Vincent Chase On Body Language  ...There are only two types of gestures Stripped and Clustered, basically one is a gesture of openess and ambiguity the other is a closed with a resounding...

You've heard it before. It's been thrown around, and you may or may not have picked up on it but the fact is that the key to understanding women and people in general lies in their body language. Sub-conciously we are sending each other signals of how we REALLY feel or what we are TRULY thinking. Not only should you learn what signals you are giving, but what signals to give and how to read the signal of others.

I don't have the time, or room, to cover all the amazing subtlties of body language but I will cover some key points but they should be sufficent for our purposes.

There are only two types of gestures Stripped and Clustered, basically one is a gesture of openess and ambiguity the other is a closed with a resounding "Don't touch me there!" Something you must understand, though, is that these gestures may not be a reflection of someone's opinion of you. For instance your best bud may be acting like a dick and pushing a lot of closed gestures but it not you he's mad at he just got schooled on the B-Ball court. The lesson for males and females? Just cause they are heavily clustered, doesn't mean they're not interested, chances are they just had a bad day.

Stripped

"All in" When someone is truly interested in what you are saying or just plain interested in you their whole body will be turned towards you, face's lock and bodies parallel.

"Comfort" When someone is comfortable around you look for tell tale signs. An open body, uncrossed legs, exposed inner arms and a lean of posture. The BIGGEST sign, the absoulte largest sign of comfort is touching. I'm not talking about a handshake or a hug after a date, I mean un-neccesary, numerous and possibly erotic touching. Rather than tell you you have ketchup on your arm she/he wipes it off, I CANNOT STRESS HOW BIG FACTOR THIS IS!

"Instant Comedian" When she starts to giggle or smile at every dumb crack you make, don't book stage time. Chances are she's just interested in you and sub-conciously or purposefully trying to make you feel more comfortable. And never use that "Yo 'mama" joke again... ever.

"Eye Contact" During direct eye contact look for signs of euphoria such as playing with her hair, playing with something in her hands or tapping her feet. Don't mistake these sign's with nervousness. There are only two options she's interested in you or scared of you. So don't rush in. When she looks at you does she smile? Does she hold the gaze long, so long it becomes almost unbearable or orgasmic in itself? Does she flip her hair? Any and all of these signs indicate she is trying to attract your attention. Get up. Walk to her. Ask her if she would like to go for a walk. Take her hand in yours before she answers. Walk backwards to the door. Take a long stroll and talk... maybe more.

Clustered

"Sarcasm and exasperation" If someone is avoiding direct eye contact, rolling thier head, rolling their eye's, pursing their lips, annoyingly tapping their feet, constantly checking their watch or looking for pre-occupation then say 'nice meeting you' and walk away if she/he pursues you great, if not she/he was not interested or greatly annoyed by your presence.

"Lean Back" Contrary to what you may have heard or what you believe when someone "leans back" in a non-musical environment it is not a goo thing. When someone leans towards you they express interest and openess, leaning back is a way of cutting themself off from you, or what you are saying at that particular moment. The more prolonged they stay back, the worse the situation is (it ranges from the playful push from the table in disagreement to the corss bones style when she leans back crosses her legs, arms and/or any chance you had)