Overcoming Approach Anxiety

author:         "Harlequin"
date:            Tue, 5 April 2005 14:18:00 GMT
website:      http://wwv.themysterymethod.com
subject:      Overcoming Approach Anxiety...JUST GET OUT & BE AROUND PEOPLE. Or go out & do something interesting that you've always wanted to do. Something that many people would envy. Then when you get back...

The newbie mission will make an APUA of you... that's Aspiring Pick-Up Artist. Some of you have a hard time with the 3s rule & get approach anxiety. Ok so you're scared about approaching sets or even lone girls. That's ok. AA is natural. To be worried about this would have at one time ensured your survival. Mystery will tell you how we're still wired up for Tribal Society. Speak to the wrong girl, some important man's lady & BAM, you get hit with a rock in the head & his cronies are stomping on your skull... all because you chatted to his 'bird.'

Unless you're in Chapeltown, Brixton, or Redneckville things should be different now. No need to be SO worried. Let's get around this AA.

JUST GET OUT & BE AROUND PEOPLE. Or go out & do something interesting that you've always wanted to do. Something that many people would envy. Then when you get back, have a mental field report ready to tell someone about. You went rock climbing on a dry wall indoors & you thought that the rope guy had you safe when in fact he'd forgotten all about you & you'd just free-climbed 100ft. You had a day off so you pointed the car in a random direction & drove somewhere just for the hell of it... "& guess where I ended up!? Outside my old school, brought back so many memories..." (cut to story about when you were a kid & did ______ whatever. Return to innocence. She'll join you. Childhood was carefree. Talk about that.

Talk about the time you tried to bury the dog when you thought it was dead & he was just anesthetized from the vets... or when you painted the cat blue because you thought grey was boring... "I was about 19 at the time!" then show you're just playing like I did with you. No I was never cruel to animals, love your dog... just don't LUUUURVE you're dog, Capice?

Communicate. LIVE then tell someone about it. Get a girl's opinion on something it doesn't have to be canned. Find what works for you. Who are you exactly? Do you even know? Go do the WHO MEDITATION. Be aware of yourself. Sort your frame out. Know yourself. Do you react to everything or do you create it? CREATION & REACTION are the same word if you 'C' things differently. C?

If you're not ready to approach get out somewhere you're unfamiliar with, ask a HB directions to some place. Tell her how much you love being in unfamiliar territories but that you like the feeling of the unknown. Ask her if she knows what that feels like. Boom, you just approached a girl & you slung an opener in there. Do what I used to do to build up my confidence... Grab a gym bag... take your watch off approach the most gorgeous girl you can find; "Excuse me, do you have the time?"

"2:20..."

"Damn, I'm late... do you know the way to the sports centre? I got a game starting in 10 minutes..."

She either knows or she doesn't... "It's just over there huh? Damn what a TREK... can I get a piggy back?"

I was on the way to Leeds Olympic Pool (Which had to be renamed Leeds international pool because the builders fucked it up & made it one inch short of 50 meters) I was full of energy & enthusiasm & saw this HOT girl. I was hornier than a field of Rhinoceroses because of my WANKTIONS (Wank Sanctions) & approached her less than 500 yards from the pool on Wellington St. I asked her directions to the pool, & she didn't know... I busted her on it & then directed HER to the pool. Zany, but she loved it. Before she was stood like a tool at a bus stop & then some nutter come over & makes her laugh. She's happy I'm there. Better than being alone. I actually ended up having her IGNORE her bus & it drove past her so she could suffer all that I gave her. "What? That was yours? You just missed your bus?"