Notes from Thundercat's Art of Approaching

e.g. "Hey, let me tell you something about good looking people… we're not well liked."
e.g.2

(Walk up to your target with a serious look on your face, scowl, shake your fist, and say)"Wanna fight?" (Get your target's response, or let the question hang for a minute, then smile devilishly and say) "Then we could have make-up sex." (The target will usually laugh. But even if they don't, proceed.) "I'm just kidding. We don't need to fight to do that."

7. Internet Approaches
Email -> Show your funny, Create Curiosity, Issue a Challence
Instant Messaging -> Issue a challenge

Email:
[Do read the details in the book about the email]
basically in the email make it personal by including her name
and make it funny and try to demonstrate a higher social value while
doing it.
Kind of make her curious about you and want to prove her self to you
(which will make her email you back)

Instant Messaging: "who are you and what are you doing on my computer"
"whats up dork?"

make sure your grammer and spelling is right to look fairly smart. [grammar - ed]

8. Opinion Opener
"Hey i need your/a female's opinion on..."
-Open ended questions work but present them with 3 or so possible options.
e.g.
"Hey guys, I need a quick opinion about something. My friend just got two dogs, a Pug dog, and a Beagle dog. She wants to name them after an 80's pop duo, but I can't for the life of me think of a good one. Do you guys have any ideas?"

-start disqualifying their replies not forcefully though, so the conversation progresses.

9. Roleplay Opener
-Giver youself the role of someone cool/important
e.g. "You could be starsky because A, B and C but actually X does not work with your attitude so.."

10. Situtational Openers
e.g.
After a cough or a sneeze, point at
the target and say:
"SARS!" (make sure the person isnt Chinese of decent cause it might seem racist)

e.g.2
if a girl comes upto you and says "can i ask you something?" say something funny like "no were not going out!"

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Fear of Approach/Overcoming the Barriers
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-Leave your comfort zone
-Its hard to start to approach because you might have a feeling of Loss (Theory in Book, page 125 or so)
So you have to leave your comfort zone often so you get use to it.
-Usually you get lazy to approach for the fear of not knowing what to say
thats why you should memorize some openers so this problem dosent strike you.

-Do not care about the outcome, dont hope to be sucessful/just dont care about the outcome then you have nothing to lose.

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