Notes from Thundercat's Art of Approaching

Interest
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Dont act too interested, be "actively disinterested" meaning open them, and talk enough to make it seem you want to be their friend and not just get into their pants
-basically dont telegraph interest.

Plural - Use "Hey" instead of "yo" (yo shows unformalitity and intent [ you want something from them ] )
Groups - "Hey There" also works
- Don't call them girls or ladies (shows your intent)

Time Constraints (People are busy so you want to make them feel like you wont waste their time)
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1. real quick
2. ive only got a few seconds
3. i know your busy, but
4. i gotta get going in a minute
5. i can only stay a minute
6. this will only take a second

Steps
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Intrude -> Plural -> Time Constraint

Timing
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Meet as soon as possible, no BS excuses at the last minute.
Its better if they make eye contact THEN you approach, but you can still approach if they dont.

Tonality
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Breath from your diaphragm
Dont be scared to be LOUD

Body Language
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1. Walking upto them - Dont face them dead on when walking to them. turn your body to them slightly while pointing your shoulders to them.
2. Conversation - smile, lean back, be cool, chest kind of out, feet apart, and smile

Groups
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Groups are easier to approach then single people because single people feel vulnerable alone.

-When you approach the group, open to the leader of the group (usually loud/talkative/or a guy)
-You do this to not telegraph interest to the target girl and because the leader could be the biggest obstacle in you getting the target.

-if there is no leader open anyone else but the target girl

-After the opener, start engaging the entire group
-Then go for the girl, there wont be resistance because her peers accept you already.

After Your Approach
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-Funny or dramatic stories
-be passionate about them

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Openers
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1. Advice Opener
-Give positive advice and make sure it can be used
-makes you seem as an authorative person

2. Compliment Opener
-Compliment on something that does not include her physical beauty or fashion
e.x. "how high are those heals" - "because you dont fall around like the other women in them"

3. Direct Opener
-Be kind of open about your intent
e.g. "my name is"
"I want to get to know, I am ..."

4.Drama Opener
-Dont tell stories where you cause problems but be in the stories to make it seem like its yours.
-Have a humourous ending or a lesson ending
-no killing or anything

5.Insult Opener
-makes them prove themselves to you.
-better to not use it on groups
-give a compliment that tell them a insecurity of theirs
e.g. "wow you have nice hair, is it real" - "no/yes" - "oh it looks nice anyway"
(Personal note: This is a neg (for the ASF community))
e.g.
if she takes her phone out
"did he call?"
if she says "no" say "thats a shame you seem like a amazing person, is there something wrong with you?"
"who?" say "the guy thats falling head over heels for you"

e.g. out of nowhere "I dont like you, were not going to be able to get along"
follow up with "its because were too alike and well just fight and fight and have makeup sex and i dont like that in relationships"

6. Joke Openers
-Jokes lowers defence and helps you gain rapport
-make sure the punch line is good/say it fast.