Make The Hot Girls Want to Not Flake

Style: I'm a little bummed because I met these two girls last week. And one, I just had set up perfectly. All the patterns and psychology games blew her mind, I was getting the DDB all night, and we *closed.

Final D: Well, at least you got a form of close. If she flaked on you, there are probably some things you can learn ...



• For me, flaking is an issue of failing to make her WANT to not flake. It isn't enough, to just get her to agree to something. That is one of about eleven essential details. You must get her to agree to see you, agree to a time, agree to a place, agree that she will travel from her place to that place, agree that she will not bring a friend, blah blah blah. That's the logistics. Fuck that. That should be taken care of in one sentence. "Hey, you and I will be getting together tomorrow at 3 for coffee, right? So, bring yourself and I'll treat ..." and then the IMPORTANT PART starts. The important part is all about what she ANTICIPATES or WANTS from the meeting.
  
  

  Ross Jeffries: Actually, I would build in her desire for the meeting BEFORE setting the place in time. But you are right..you have to offer her an opportunity and phrase it so she  perceives it as something of high value that is also SCARCE. Add in a challenge to her self image and make sure you calibrate to REAL agreement ... real, ENTHUSIASTIC agreement. If you sense it is NOT real agreement, discuss it...."Look, I want to make sure we are on the same page here. I'd really LIKE to extend you this opportunity,but I want to make sure that this really is something you want to do..so are we really on the same page?" If you don't get a strong, "Yes" then you need to back up...

  
  

  Inform her of how you will do something special (Tarot deck? handwriting analysis?) and also, of course, display great value. Make her laugh. Etc. "You want to pick up that CD you ordered tomorrow when it comes in, right?" Yes ladder. "Then you and I will see each other. We can open it together."
  
  

  Ross Jeffries:  I wouldn't link it to something so ordinary as a CD, but if you find it works, great.

  
  

• For me, remembering that all chicks (heck, all PEOPLE) flake, suggests I need to build up their resistance to flaking, and their capacity to undergo the procedure necessary to not flake. "Hey, you don't want me to think of you as that sort of person" type talk is good, but can only go so far. "Hey, imagine driving your car down the road ... which road leads from home to this coffee shop? Oh, the Expressway 17. OK, you can drive the Expressway, can't you? What's it like?" And get her into the safe, unthreatening details about all of that. About opening her car door, getting her keys, being ready at 2:30 so she can leave the house on time -- build up her LOGISTICAL RESPONSIBILITY in her OWN mind by anchoring it to the good feelings you are giving her. This goes hand in hand with the concept of suggesting to her that she feel sexy and answer with a delighted, excited air, when you call. "So, when we get together, first thing you'll do is act really excited to see me, and really go out of your way to rush across the city to be with me. Right?"
  
  

  Ross Jeffries: That is REALLY pushing it, in my book. If I have to outline the route she takes to get their, then she is really a dumb cookie and not worth the bother. Set up her desire to be there, the challenge and opportunity, make sure she feels safe enough... If she STILL flakes, we are looking at issues outside of our control:
  
  

  • Turmoil filled life, troublesome people, drugs, alcohol(these last two are VERY, VERY common among younger women...don't underestimate how often this happens).