The General Phases of PU

5) Depending on the health of the relationship, the sexual rigor in #4 goes on for quite some time, although at a slighty more sane pace because people still have school/work/life to deal with. At this point, you're officially BF/GF. So, the sex might be good, but only maybe one sessoin 4-6 days per week instead of crazy marathon sessions. MANY IW and wussy guys try to tie down phase #5 before phase #4, and that is their critical mistake. Phase #4 is when the females gives up power, while phase #5 is when the male gives up power. If you want any power at all in the relationship guys, Phase #4 must come first. You are rewarding her sex with a relationship, she is not rewarding your relatinoship with her sex. There IS a difference.

DO NOT be the first to bring up a BF/GF relationship, even after you've had sex for the first time. I know the instinct might be strong to, "tie her down for future sex," but this is mistake. It only broadcasts to her that you don't think you WILL get sex next week from a different girl and therefore must tie her down into a relatinoship to guarantee future sex

If she tries to bring up a serious BF/GF relationship BEFORE serious sexual relations happen, delay and tell her you're still undecided about her. Keep in mind, however, that "serious sexual relations," is a different definition depending on how old/experienced the person is. If you're her first or second potential boyfriends, etc. demanding sex is probably unrealistic. Just judge by the body language. Is she hanging all over you? Happy to kiss/make out w/ you? Etc. However, by the time you hit college/the real world, you should definitely be getting sex before you agree to any relationship SHE suggests.

Once the BF/GF relationship has been established (hopefully by HER suggesting it and winning YOU over, not the other way around), it will be smooth sailing for a little bit---aka the, "honeymoon," period.

6) Then the relationship settles down into a very normal predictable routine. At this point, the SHIT TESTS begin again. Do not blame a girl for giving you shit-tests after you've sealed-the-deal. You passed the initial shit-tests to the point where she decided to buy into you. But now she wants periodocially do a status check on you. Checking the tires, checking the oil, that 10,000 mile check-up, etc. It is in her nature to give you these tests. Fundamentally, she WANTS you to be strong, stand up for yourself, and call BS and not stand for it when you see it. So, she does little, "tests," to make sure all systems are, "go." She secretely WANTS you to stand up for yourself and keep in control. After all, if you can't stand up to HER, then that means SHE is the strong one in the relationship. And when outside forces come to threaten the two of you, SHE"LL be the one standing up for the two of you and protecting YOU instead of the other way around. If you keep yourselves together (she stays pleasant & physically attractive and cool; you keep passing the shit-tests, stay chill and keep yourself together physically/financially) and you really like each other's personalities, this is when you stay together. If not, then this is when you break up.

By Billydee