The Two Kinds of LMR

From the start, I play it cool. I get her number fairly quickly because I was late to a play I wanted to see. After that, I talk to her on the phone a couple times, hang out with her for one hour once, talk on the phone once or twice quickly, go out for four to six hours in a really fun, long day that we kissed at the end of, talked once more shortly, then I went over to her place and cooked dinner with her.

She lives in a small apartment with another Asian girl, and her roommate left after I showed up to give us some time to herself. I greet her at the door with a peck on the lips, then we cooked pasta together. I chopped up vegetables while she stirred the meat sauce we were making. We've got an incredible connection, and we really, really like each other.

After dinner, she says, "You like fruit?" I was about to say no, because I was full from our excellent cooking, when she says she's going to get us strawberries.

She cuts a bunch of strawberries in half, and cuddles up to me, taking two small bites of a strawberry before feeding the rest to me. We kiss a few times as she feeds me like a King, and then we kiss passionately. I take her to her bedroom and we start up.

She's really nervous, repeatedly saying she's shy. "Honey, I'm shy" and "Honey, I'm nervous" she'd say. I kept reassuring her. "Baby, it's okay. We're just going to spend some time together." "It's okay, baby, you're so beautiful, you don't need to be shy." And so on.

She had no hangups with me: She was really feeling me, maybe even thinking I'd be the next man she'd love. But she had some hangups about sex.

With that, it's time to reassure her that I like her, I'm going to be with her, and emphasize the strong connection we feel. This is the exact opposite route you want to take with a party girl on a one night stand: You don't want her thinking you're going to mess her regular life up if she just wants to get down once and never see you again.

But I was gentle and caring, and slowly took my girl and I to new heights. We didn't have long to have sex since her roommate was coming home at some point, but it was amazing none the less. She came a couple times, I really enjoyed it, and we held each other afterwards. I then drank some water and we went for a walk before I kissed her goodnight and headed on my way.

If I'd punished her for being nervous or shy, I'd have broken our connection down. Much-hyped ASF stuff like backturns and freezeouts in the bedroom would've set a horrible tone for the relationship that's to come between us. If the girl is really feeling you, you won't need to punish her or convince her to sleep with you. You just need to give her a comfortable way to sleep with you.

Remember that you're attractive and you're strong. When you play cool, natural game, you don't need a production in the bedroom: Just gently lead her and take her to new heights of pleasure.

By Dimitri