Some replies by mystery about pickup HB

author:         "Mystery"
date:            Mon, 14 Sep 1998 04:00:00 GMT
newsgroup: alt.seduction.fast
subject:       Re: A hello, and My past Friday night (3 strike outs)

>I just can't seem to find the right words to say when attempting to start a conversation with a women I find attractive. Thus starts that unbearable moment
of silence.

Yes, we all can get that. The ART is about NOT getting that and that is why you are here. That is what patterns and scripts and themes and outlines and OPENERs and INTROs and MAIN BODYs and patter and stories and CLOSEs and routines are all about.

>This is my main problem. I have little fear in walking up to a

women, and saying hello or asking them to dance. I guess having some other intros would help.

This fear is known as the AWARE state change. The more beautiful the girl, the more AWARE you become. This isnt something that happens to you becasue you are shy. This is a mechanism built into human behavior. Your genes preprogrammed you to feel this from birth. We ALL get it and its a bitch to deal with. It will NOT go away. But you can HIDE it. The girl will never KNOW you are feeling it. Most girls think that nervous guys are lame. Lost guys therefore ARE lame. So, you can hide this fact like one would hide a headcold from someone by not complaining and tipping others off. This is why we are here.

To approach a girl, you need an INTRO script (not an opening line) . Many start with "Hi." Consider the MUSIC script: "Hi. I like pearl jam, im not ashamed. :)" she says, "oh, ok. *looks weird at you.*" You say, "I like the tragically hip." She says, "yeah", showing she likes them too. You are smiling all the while. Because she likes the band you like, you take an obvious step towards her. "I like stone temple pilots." If she says "ewww", take an obvious step back. See, you can NEG HIT her, show playfulness with this game, make her confused about whether you are hitting on her (which you arent visibly) and learn about her music taste (a good indicator of many things) all beginning with a "Hi." Continue playing this game for several more bands. Shew may even begin playing the game with you. Oh and if you dont already know a girl and have made her laugh and already know your name, dont bother asking a stranger to dance. Dancing is an extra bonus. The best girl-getters dont get the girl by dancing ... not first anyway.

You went to 3 women and talked to them? Thats GREAT man. That took an attempt to CONTROL the AWARE state change that occurs when near a beautiful woman. Great start. Familiarity to this feeling will allow you to control this better. Its not FEAR BTW. Its AWARE.

A friend and I (he's married, I'll call him Ringo) decided earlier in the week that we'd hit the club around 10pm. To make a long story short, we did just that. He mainly goes to the clubs just to look at the women, but won't pass up a one night stand if it happens.

Dont sugar coat this man. He goes to get laid but uses the excuse of just looking when he can't. Humans are scientifically polygamous. How many times do we have to say, "this is HUMAN NATURE. Its OK to be natural." CHEATING is culturally a dirty word, but our gene's thank us for it. Its an evolutionary advantage (shrug).

>We sat down and talked, and made a
round around the club to see what we could see. I saw nothing at this point (around 11pm) and was debating on leaving to hit another spot. Ringo wanted to
stay because he was hoping to meet up with a lady (Rene) whom he had met the week before and had said she would be there that night. I said okay, I'd stay
for another half hour or so if nothing came about.

Sitting down is generally a bad thing in a club - but it could have been REALLY dead and you were waiting for it to pick up before making rounds were possible. 10pm is good to get there though so you have time to mentally prepare. The Rene thing seems sorta lame already - meeting a girl there sucks. He should get himself a pager. If he tells women he's married but that he just bought a pager to have some added fun in his life, you'd be surprised how many girls would take him up on it. Of course he has to attract the girls first. Do this by NOT hitting on them. Make them laugh and make them connect and they will want to get the pager # off him. Everytime his secret pager vibrates, he can call it a stud-meter.