Communicating that you are Qualifying them

author:          "Jugglar "
date:             Sat 10 Dec 2002 10:25 GMT
website:       www.charismarts.com
subject:        Communicating that you are Qualifying them...The questions should require work on her part either because they require imagination, a sense of humor or ...

Most guys work this backwards.

In general, with women you just met, you want to make statements. Avoid asking many questions.

The exception are questions which you ask for screening purposes. These are tests which you make up for her to try to pass.

This accomplishes a few things. It shows you have distinguishing taste. It tells her that she will have to have more than just a great body to get with you and it puts her in the proper dynamic of working to garner your affections.

You can be direct or subtle. But either way they should be difficult even to the point where she can not answer. That is right - have her fail some test questions.

The questions should require work on her part either because they require imagination, a sense of humor or just plain stretching her values to meet yours.

Here are a few examples and follow ups:

1."If you could spend your life doing one thing, what would it be?"

She will probably say something lame. You follow up by telling her about your passion in life. You give her an example to try to live up to and demonstrate how well spoken and thoughtful, passionate about your own life you are.

2."I like a woman who can cook well. What is your best dish?"

Wether she comes up with something or not you tell her your favorite is 'whatever'. Mine happens to be lasagna. So I tell girls how much I like all the gooey cheese and noodles, etc.. If she doesn't enjoy and like to talk about food I usually walk away. I love eating.

3. "If we were a couple and I wanted to hang out with my friends to 2 am. How would you feel about that?"

Here you are point blank telling her the treatment you expect and holding a hoop for her to jump through. If you end up having a LTR with her, she will remember that she agreed not to complain when you stay out late.

Of course, make up your own questions based on what you like from a girl. But just make sure they are not too easy and that they are interestingly creative questions.