The concept of Push and Pull

The other day I was talking to a buddy of mine, a real rock star at attracting women, about, of all things, Bill Gates. We were discussing how Gates' financial problems are vastly different from the average person. Bill spends his days fretting over ways to either make more money or sustain the money he has, while most people concern themselves with making money in the first place. The man lives in a completely different reality from most of us. As we were chatting about Mr. Microsoft, something dawned on us...

When it comes to succeeding with women, we realized, we live in a very different reality from most men. In our reality, generating attraction in women is as easy as taking a crap - little effort, yet feels great! The skills and tools for generating attraction are so ingrained in us that when interacting with gorgeous women, there's not even an iota of hemming and hawing over how to attract them. Our focus, instead, is on: using the attraction we already know we can generate in them to get our intended outcome. If there's a woman we're interested in, for example, we don't stand there stiff and stupefied, like a deer caught in headlights, wondering: "How in the world are we going to attract her?" We know, if we just chat with her for a few minutes, it's inevitable that she'll feel attraction toward us. That's why our focus is entirely on, even if we haven't yet said a word to her, using the attraction we already know we can generate in her to get our intended outcome.

But this isn't the reality of most men. "What to do in the wake of a woman feeling attraction toward you?" is a thought never crossing the minds of many a man - and rightfully so...because most can't even generate attraction inside women in the first place.

A few nights ago, for example, I was at a little bar down the street from my house. My friend and I watched a forty-something year-old distinguished looking business man play the big passive bottom to the verbal gang bang of two twenty-one year old looking, sponge-brained rhymes-with-witches. The poor bastard attempted to attract these women the only ways he knew how: buying them drinks, giving them lots of compliments, and, worst of all, asking them if they thought his clothes are cool. Funny enough, the more he did these things, the crueler the girls acted toward him. This man was a walking, talking attraction death sentence.

Can you relate? Have you ever felt, every attempt to attract a woman was actually turning her off? Or have you experienced the frustration of trying to figure out why a woman was more attracted to your friend than you? Or maybe you've brooded: Attracting women is as difficult as a blind man trying to find a bobby pin on an open football field. I dunno?

Each scenario represents the reality of not knowing how to attract women. A reality I personally overstayed my welcome. I, however, have moved far away from this reality and now reside in a place where attracting women is cake.

I'm going to share something with you only known, for the most part, by people living in a reality where attracting women is as easy as turning on a light switch. This is something I don't think I've ever talked about in a newsletter...and might never again. If you've read my book, you'll know what this is. If you've gone out and experimented with it, there's a good chance you understand the power behind it.