I like to use personal space and distance as a takeaway. When moving to a comfort location I sit first, at least I try to if not I have to guess where it's comfortable for her. By sitting first I allow her to chose where is most comfortable for her. How do you get closer? Well a couple ways. In louder setting's I will move a little closer to say something or give the impression that I'm trying to "listen" then I move back but not all the way back, a little bit closer. Sometimes I'll more closer on the pretext of showing her something, I have a palmistry technique that's great for this, then I stay closer. There are so many way's to move closer to her, if you can't think of any legitimate reason then you can always just say, "You know what, at first I got this strange vibe from you, but I think you're someone I could get closer to." Move right next to her, maybe put your arm around her, tilt your head and get a look on your face like your deciding something. After a couple seconds say, " Yea, I could definitely get closer to you." Then turn and smile and back away just a hair. Now here comes the takeaway. When you're inching closer to her, if at any time she rears her head when you scoot or you sense her discomfort move away, but farther away than you were before and then just look about for a while waiting for her to re-initiate conversation. Remember! She is already attracted to you at this point, if you're afraid that she'll walk away if you snub her then you didn't do your job.
Something that plays an extraordinarily minor role in rapport these days is ethnicity, however it is still a viable means of building rapport with someone. For instance, if you can tell that a girl is Latino it would be pretty damned nice if you knew something about the culture. She might not even know about the culture herself, and she might not even care but this is part of being someone interesting, it shows that you know shit, you don't have to know stuff or be knowledgeable on a particular topic, just as long as you know shit. Imagine how cool it would be to walk up to be in comfort building and ask her in Spanish, " Do you speak the language of Romance?" BAM! Social proof, and you just made her more comfortable around you AND you surprised her and became that much more interesting, to boot! Another factor based on ethnicity is International Sarging. Knowing the customs of the culture and having a knowledge about your surroundings makes it that much more navigable and keeps you from appearing as a total tourist, instead you're a visitor. Much more appealing.
A major factor in building comfort deals with another piece of the social puzzle, social cliques. Everyone knows about them and everyone belongs to one if not more of them. A social clique is a group of people with some commonalities. Some archetypal Cliques are " The Jocks" "The Populars" "The Ronans/Rebels" "The Beatniks/Hippies" and there are dozens if not hundreds more. One thing you can do to almost instantaneously gain comfort with a woman is to prove that you belong to her focal clique. Let's say she's a social butterfly and belongs to many, many different groups and her social networking web has extended so far it's hard to keep up with, however through speaking with her and extracting information you extrapolate that her focal clique (the main group she belongs to, her core or "base") is "The Populars" so in the comfort building stage you can rack up major pointage by telling her a story in which you prove or imply that you belong to that same group and with a WHIP, CRACK with your swoopy tail, she'll be done! She'll ask you: Be you an angel? And you'll say; NO! I'm Just a Man, ROCK! Okay, so Tenacious D is playing on my computer right now but, that is besides the point. The point is, that by demonstrating you belong to the same social group, you must have over laps in your social web, you must have gone through similar social testing and rituals and etc, etc, etc. You' ve just hit the bonus level, DING DING DING, you're that much closer to her panties between your teeth with just one little anecdote.
