Mini-Cold Reads For Attraction

author:          "Jugglar"
date:             Sat, 10 Sep 2005 20:56 GMT
website:      www.fastseduction.com
subject:        Mini-Cold Reads For Attraction ...Rapport is pretty simple when you understand the tendency to like and feel COMFORT around those people ...

Just about everyone will agree that rapport is important anytime you have an interaction with another person. If you think about it, it's kind of a no-brainer. Who likes to spend time around someone that is being obnoxious? Maybe some of the whacked out street people in San Francisco do, people I know like to spend time with people that make them feel comfortable.

People Like People Who Are Like Themselves

Rapport is pretty simple when you understand the tendency to like and feel COMFORT around those people who are similar to you. There are theories that say it goes back to our days of living in tribes and clans, and was a way to recognize threats to the clan. That may be true, but all that really matters is to understand if you want a woman to feel comfortable with you, you'll need to build rapport with her.

The opposite is true as well. If you want to drive someone away, break rapport with them. There are times when this can be useful, but I would recommend you practice building rapport first… you'll get a lot more mileage out of that.

Methods For Building Rapport

There are people who seem to be naturals at building rapport. These people were modeled using the methods of Nuero Linguistic Programming (NLP), and a lot of different techniques were discovered.

Many of these use a method known as Mirroring and Matching. To do this you must be able to calibrate the other person, moving your body like they do, speaking like they do, and even timing your breathing to theirs.

These techniques work well, since this is what normally happens when two people are in rapport. The challenge with these methods is that it takes a lot of practice to be able to do them without being detected.

It also takes a while to be able to do them without being distracted from the conversation going on. Since mirroring and matching will usually happen naturally once you already have rapport, you are better off finding an easier way to build rapport and let nature take it's course.

A Simple Method

An easier method is to find out things about the person that you both have in common. This can be done easily inside of a fun and fascinating conversation. The more you have in common, the faster rapport will develop.

Think about a time when you met someone and found out they were from your home town. How quickly did that change how you felt about them? I've had the experience of being on the other side of the planet and running into someone from the USA. It might be the case that normally I wouldn't spend time with them, but it feels good just to speak your own language and share the culture you have in common for a brief moment in time.

That's rapport.

A Fun Way To Find Commonalities

When you have a woman you want to build trust and comfort with, a really fun way for both of you to build rapport, is to use cold reading as a way to find out what you have in common.

There are some key benefits to using cold reading as opposed to everyday conversation.

(1). People usually won't resist cold reads since they are ambiguous, yet sound true to the listener
(2). She will feel like you understand her, so she will open up even more to you.
(3). It's easy to get her talking about things she doesn't even tell her best friends
(4). You will quickly find out things you share in common, by pointing these out you'll build rapport quickly with her. You'll ‘connect' with her on a deeper level.

What Is Cold Reading

Cold reading is a technique used by salespeople, interrogators and psychics to convince other people that they know more about them than they actually do. Generally, the cold reader will make a series of vague statements, will observe their reaction, and then will refine the original statements based on the reactions they got.