David DeAngelo writes:
If you listen to women talk about men, you'll often hear them use the word "ANNOYING" to describe certain men and certain things that some men DO.
Now, as you can probably guess, it's not usually a good thing when a woman uses this particular word to describe a guy...
And, as you can ALSO probably guess, when a woman uses this particular word, it's not usually about guys who she is ATTRACTED to (although this isn't always true).
Now, It's taken me a few years of paying attention to really get a handle on what women are talking about when they say "He's annoying" or "It's so annoying when he does that".
And guess what I realized was at the ROOT of women finding a guy or his behavior annoying?
IT'S ALMOST ALWAYS WUSSY BEHAVIOR!
AHHHH!
THINGS THAT ANNOY WOMEN...
Here are some of the things that many women consider to be "annoying":
- Calling her too often
- Telling her that you have "feelings" for her too early
- Giving away your power to her and making her the boss
- Always asking a woman what she wants instead of leading
- Acting submissive and weak
- Accepting her demands, bossy-ness, and manipulative requests
- Being her doormat and putting your own needs aside
"WHAT?" you say.
"HOW COULD THIS BE?"... you might be thinking.
How is it possible that demonstrating your affection for a woman by calling her, telling her how you feel, letting her make the decisions, and putting her first could be considered ANNOYING, of all things?
Well guess what? IT IS.
Women, and ESPECIALLY the most ATTRACTIVE and desirable women usually consider the above things to be VERY annoying.
Of course, the reason for this is because no matter how good these kinds of behaviors seem on the surface, there's only one conclusion that can be drawn from them:
THE MAN DOING THEM IS A BONAFIDE, 100% CERTIFIABLE WUSSY!
AND WOMEN AREN'T ATTRACTED TO WUSSIES. NEVER.
Now, do I really, really, REALLY mean that women are NEVER, EVER attracted to Wu ssi e s?
I mean, isn't that an over-generalization? Nothing is always true, right?
Well, this one IS.
Actually, what I MEAN is...
"As far as generalizations go, this particular one is as close to being true all the time as they get."
And just in case I haven't said this enough, let me say it one more time... just to make sure it's clear:
WOMEN AREN'T ATTRACTED TO WUSSIES.
So, now you understand why all of the "nice" things that you've done for women seem to always result in the woman pulling away.
It's because she finds your nice-guy "Wuss" behaviors to be ANNOYING.
AND IT KEEPS GETTING WORSE...
To further confuse things, you'll often hear a woman say something to the effect of...
"I want a STRONG guy who is also SENSITIVE..." ...or...
"He needs to have his own life, his own interests, and his own friends, but also totally focused on me..."
I see things like this in women's personal ads all the time. I'm sure you've seen things like this yourself.
Women often talk about wanting a combination of things in a man that just don't seem to fit...
So what's going on here?
Are women crazy? (Yes.)
But seriously, what are they talking about?
How is it that women seem to always talk about wanting men who have these qualities that don't fit together?
I know that I personally used to hear this stuff and then say to myself "OK, well I've got the sensitive part covered so I guess I need to start acting a little bit stronger".
I thought that maybe this came down to getting my lazy ass to the gym and working out. You know, to become "stronger".