10 Characteristics of Alpha Behaviour

9) ALPHAMALES GET MORE CREDIT FOR MINOR ACTS OF KINDNESS THAN BETAS DO.

When I was in NYC with Papa and Mys, we stayed at the house of this guy named "Garvellous" (NYC Lair top guy).

He was a really cool guy, and he'd been laid around 40 times in college before he'd even FOUND ASF.

He'd been in a frat, and he told me about something that the frathouse would intentionally do to new pledges when they'd apply.

According to Garvellous, they were told to appear UNAPPROACHABLE and CLIQUISH initially.

THEN, they were to be REALLY DOWN TO EARTH.

What he explained was that if you APPEAR to be cliquish and unapproachable, that when you turned out to be actually down to earth, people would say "this guy is the NICEST/COOLEST guy.."

As opposed to a librarian or a geek being nice, which NOBODY appreciates because they interpret it as COMPENSATING for short-comings.

Just think: Imagine if you were to bump into Jay-Z or Dr. Dre or Michael Jordan, and they had a big entourage. The celeb in question comes up to you and says "what's up.. having a good time dude? cool.. yeah this place is pretty busy you know, and it can be kinda intimidating.. but you know, I just try to have a good time.. anyway, have a good night man.."

You'd be like HOLY SHIT THAT GUY IS THE COOLEST/NICEST GUY I'VE EVER MET... You'd tell EVERYBODY about how cool and down to earth the celeb is, and you'd be really appreciative and impressed.

Now take the SAME REMARK from a geek or whatever, and you wouldn't give it a second thought... Whatever, its just some geek.

In clubs, the "unapproachable" guys are the dudes who wear sunglasses into the club, and have superfly clothes and a corner with hot girls. Notice that if one of THOSE guys approaches your set in a club, you will NEVER snub him. The two-man cockfarm of generically dressed guys on the other hand, its a different story.

10) ULTIMATE COMFORT IN OWN SKIN.

Here is one that I find really funny.

Look at rapport 50-Cent, or any stereotypical rockstar.

Now your average woman will have all of these "ideals" that guys should have, but notice that these go out the window for guys like 50-Cent.

50-Cent raps about how he's going to kill and shoot people.. Fuck hoes, etc etc..

NOBODY questions this.

He is 50-Cent, he's from the streets, and THAT-IS-WHO-HE-IS.

NOBODY QUESTIONS IT.

Similarly, a rockstar pumps massive drugs and fucks groupies all day long.

He's a REBEL.. a BADBOY.. a SEX SYMBOL.. (notice the correlation, and how projecting rebel/badboy can get you laid, even though there is no LOGICAL reason for that being the case)..

Even a spiritual guy who talks about inner-peace and non-violence and all that stuff will usually say "well, he's a superstar" when they're asked what they think about these types of guys.. (there are exceptions of course, and the dudes with more zeal will call out anybody).

Another example is like COLLEGE ALPHA MALES who wear dumb shit like TOGAS and marker up their faces with magic marker and shit like that.

Notice that everyone thinks that its COOL, just because the "cool kids" (alphas) are doing it. NOBODY questions it.

CONCLUDING THOUGHTS:

1) Good topic for discussion - how to DEAL with these kinds of guys. For any of us who do clubs, these kind of guys can be DIFFICULT TO BEFRIEND, for group thoery purposes (for social proof, and of course for stealing their chicks)

So how do we get good at out-alpha-ing these guys, who barely talk, and who are disinterested in getting to know you?

2) In what ways do WE on ASF EMULATE these behaviours?

Some obvious ones are just making statements and not asking about them until they go for it first.

And following up "what's your name" with answers like "guess".

3) How does this CONFLICT with the fact that you NEED TO BE TALKATIVE in order to pickup.