Deal with Shit Testing

Right off the bat, shit testing is funny. Let me put this stuff in context. All the things I'm talking about here, this is for anything over an 8.5. If you want to pick up 7s, 6s, I can talk about that, too. There's a whole different strategy for that. You wouldn't shit test a 6 or 7, unless they had really high self-esteem, because they're going to be all like "I can't believe you just said that to me (depressed).

PUA: If you're at a bar  that's a sausage farm, like it usually is, and there's a few girls, all 6s or 7s, but because they have 8 guys hanging over their shoulder, their self-esteem skyrockets.

SB: That's why I don't like to go by the looks model so much. You can find a girl who's a 9 and have her self-esteem down low. If you shit test her or neg her, she's walking away (head down), "I can't believe that guy said that to me." I was in South Beach, Miami. From across the bar, I saw this incredibly hot 9, smokin' body, blonde hair. I approached, and I came off a little too hard. I found out she was only 16 years old, and it was one of her first times in a bar. She didn't know how to handle that, didn't want to talk to me. She looked really hot, older. So think of it in terms of self-esteem. Try to gauge a girl's self-esteem. A lot of it is mood based. If the girl's feeling really up, and you can see it too, just from how she's interacting with her friends, she's the center of attention, you're going to know: high self-esteem. You're going to know what tactics to pull out. Then you see the two girls in the club sitting in the corner, all-quiet, like they're intimidated by the place. Even though they could be good looking, you're not going to approach the same way you normally would, or use the same tactics, when you're shit testing.

PUA: So you use more her emotional state in the moment than her self-esteem?

SB: Self-esteem. You can usually gauge it by talking to girls about how receptive they are to being approached. You say "Hey…". A girl with low self-esteem will turn around, open body language right away, all attentive. If a girl does that to you, don't shit test her, don't neg her. She really wants to talk to you to show her body language like that. But if the girl is like (shows attitude, etc.), come out with the big guns. Shit test her, neg her, all that stuff. Knock her off that pedestal. And first, you got to get her to earn your respect, too.

Shit testing. How do I do it? I'll give you an example of one of the openers we use. "Hey guys. I need a female opinion. Do girls think that the rock star David Bowie is hot? My little sister just got a poster of David Bowie to hang up on the wall. She's only 16. Do you guys think he's hot? Do you like old men? Do you think old guys are hot?!" Then you turn your back. The girls are like, "What?!" Stuff like that. Right from the beginning, start accusing them of stuff. Anything. On your approach, if they do the slightest thing…Let's say they twirl their hair. Go, "Are you trying to pick me up? You're twirling your hair. I know that. I know what that means. You're not hiding anything." Accuse them. "You're licking your lips. I know what that is. You're attracted to me." admin

Tyler Durden has this routine. It's a super, super good routine. We usually use this right off the opener. It is solid. You'll see the responses you get when you do this to a 9 or 10. It's basically a big shit test. You' ll do the opener, then they'll say something. Then you say,

"You know what. I can't trust you guys. Girls are predators. Girls are sexual predators. I come out to clubs, and I see all these guys trying to seduce all these women. But that's not the case. That's not the way it works. Guys are so dumb. They think they're seducing the women. At the end of the day it's women that choose. It's the girl that chooses. Guys dangle themselves in front of the women thinking they made it happen. But all along, at the end of the day, girls choose…You know, when guys get mad at their girlfriend, they can't just go out to a club and sleep with a random girl. It just doesn't happen. How many guys can do that? How many guys do you think can honestly do that? Less than 3 percent. Look at these guys. Look at them. They go after all these girls. They're complimenting, they're leaning in, they're touching them. That doesn't get anyone anywhere. That's not going to work. Some girls like it, but seriously, how many guys do you think can really do that? It's the girls that choose. Girls go out to the clubs. They put on their push-up bra, high-heel shoes, and just walk around looking hot, choosing guys. That's the way it is. You know what? You know why this is? It's because girls are the only gender that has an organ designed solely for sexual pleasure. That's why girls, when they have sex, they're like, " oooooh, oooooh" (loud, others in the club hear you). When guys have sex, it's like "uhhhhh " (relief).