The Kino Process

Kino

This topic was inspired by Larry. Most of you need to practice touching women. I know that sounds really weird but a lot of guys need to practice kino because it's not something that comes naturally to them. Guys here aren't used to touching women so they hesitate for that split second, or they're stiff when they're trying to initiate kino, which ruins it and makes it awkward. Guys that are good at initiating physical contact have been doing their whole lives. It comes naturally to them.

The reason that some girls say they don't like guys trying to be touchy feely is because with some men, it's very obvious that they're trying to initiate physical contact, and it's a little weird. "OBs" typically can initiate kino because they can do it casually. Kino isn't just about touching a girl, it's about casually brushing her leg, or something, to make her think about physical contact. Kino needs to go in a certain order, otherwise it seems too forward.

First, you want to touch the arm area. Top or bottom, it doesn't really matter. You can do this during conversation, when you're telling them something or sharing some information, or an opinion. The key to doing this is to maintain eye contact with the person and not look at your hand while touching her. Or, if you're talking about something or someone nearby, you look at that person or object.

Next, you can touch the leg, but only if you're sitting. Don't necessarily rest your hand on her leg, because that's weird. If you're sitting on a couch angle yourself to have you knees touching. It's very subtle, but she will notice. If she moves away, then she's not into you. If she pretends your knee isn't touching her, then you can proceed farther. Touch arms/elbows together: this is when you are sitting next to her, and you both are facing the same direction. You can lightly elbow her, you can push your upper arm against hers for a second, or you can sometimes lean on her temporarily (or longer, depending on her comfort). This is low risk and easy to pull off, because it's not with your hand, so looking at your hand isn't a problem (and it's hard to look at your arm/shoulder when you are so close to her).

If you're not sitting, you can touch her back next. If you didn't have any leg contact, then a good way is to start up at the top and work you way down. Like the arm thing, you can place your hand near her shoulder blades during conversation.

Next, you can touch the small of her back. A good way to do this is if you're walking. I wouldn't advise doing this when not walking though, unless you're really slick. A good time to do this is when leading her through a doorway. This is a good time to judge whether or not she's interested. This is just above her ass, so it's a very sensual spot. If she pulls away, back off a bit. This could mean that you're moving too fast or that she's not interested. If she ignores you, keep going.

Next, is the face. If you're sitting on the couch and the leg thing is going well, you can move from the leg to the face. The best excuse for touching a face is "hold still, you have an eyelash." And then pretend to brush it away. Remember, there doesn't NEED to be a loose eyelash for this to work. FAKE IT. However, look where you're touching, because if you're making eye contact and not looking for the "eyelash" then it's weird. However, after you brush it away, you can make eye contact for a couple seconds. One good way is to place your hand on her temple and brush the lash away with your thumb and then as you're pulling your hand away, slightly brush her cheek in a downward motion with the tips of your fingers.

Now, if she lets you touch her face without pulling away, then she's probably into you.

Now remember, this is just a progression. If you're sitting on the couch talking, you can go from touching her arm to touching her leg, but keep touching her arms sometimes too.