The concept of Demonstrating Value

You have to start seeing the interaction as a much more of a MUTUAL thing, rather than just you spitting game at her and waiting for her to swoon over.

This is THE number one misconception that guys have about game and about ASF teachings: that it's the guy just dropping all these things (stories, jokes, etc.) and then just having the girl fall into his arms.

NO NO NO NO NO.

No matter how technical and tactical and scientific it can get, ULTIMATELY "game" is about forming a UNIQUE connection between the TWO of you. It's not just about YOUR value, how cool YOU are, but ALSO about what kinda person she is, what she's thinking, what she's feeling. You MUST take these things into account, or else even the coolest DHV routine will fall FLAT. This is what the PUAs called "calibration."

I'm assuming you are vaguely familiar with the M3 Model. If not, it's in the stickies thread in General Ladder Discussion. Basically, you are having trouble with the initial meeting and attraction phase. Okay, cool. Don't even sweat it.

The EASIEST way to attract a girl is to engage her EMOTIONS.

You CANNOT just chill back and spit routines like the ESP game and strawberry fields or whatever and wait for her reactions. You must ENGAGE her, you must SUCK HER INTO YOUR REALITY and IMMEDIATELY begin pushing EMOTIONAL BUTTONS.

How do you do this?

A) Cocky/Funny

You may or may not know what this is. This is basically you being cocky and funny. However, just being cocky and funny is NOT ENOUGH. This is another HUGE MISCONCEPTION, on this board and others, that if you are merely just cocky and funny, she will feel attracted.

PERHAPS, but USUALLY what happens with quality women is that they will ENJOY YOUR C/F, TAKE WHAT THEY NEED (the enjoyment/fun/emotional spikes), AND THEN LEAVE. It is CRUCIAL that you UTILIZE your cocky/funny to ENGAGE her.

This is called PUSH-PULL. You lace your words with cocky/funny to verbally pull her in and then push her away. In this way, when you PULL, she is emotionally engaged (because it's not just detached c/f, it's PERSONAL), but then you PUSH so she does not feel UNCOMFORTABLE about it and is thus FREE to ENJOY your company some more.

Need an example? Here's a very basic example of how a push-pull sequence of mine will go:

Me: So what was your name again?

Girl: Jamie.

Me: That's a pretty cool name. [Pull] How do you spell that?

Girl: J-A-M-I-E.

Me: Are you fucking serious? Haha omg I can't talk to you anymore... [Push]

Girl: WTF? Why not?!

Me: Every Jamie I've known who spells it that way has been TROUBLE for me... Like... I know one Jamee who spelled it with two e's and she's an amazing friend, but every Jamie who spells it the other way has been SUCH a partying bad-girl... HORRIBLE influences on my life...

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Me: Yeah, so I box... it's fucking grueling, but I dunno... nothing else I've ever done gives me the same rush. You play any sports?

Girl: Well, I'm a huge hockey fan...

Me: Are you kidding me? You're into hockey? Wait.... are you one of those poser girls who pretend to like sports just to get attention from guys, but honestly couldn't care less? You are, aren't you?! [Push]

Girl: What?! NO! I love hockey! Really!!!

Me: Hmm.... okay.... who's the greatest, handsomest, coolest guy who ever played for the NY Rangers? [Keep Pushing, because I'm going to make a strong Pull]

Girl: Wayne Gretzky.

Me: Actually, it's Mark Messier... dork *grin* [Pushing....]

Girl: No way! Gretzky was so much hotter than Messier and he was so much better on the ice.

Me: ...... A girl who knows who Gretzky AND Messier are.... omg, I love you. You're my new girlfriend. [PULL]

Girl: Hahahaha okay!

Me: BUT WAIT... are you rich?

Girl: Uh.... no.... not really...