Reading the signs of a

For starters - a story which at first glance only seems to illustrate the mistake of judging a girl by her words and not her actions. But after a more careful inspection, even those seemingly "rejecting" words of her are actually a complementary sign to her actions (the sign being - "I want you!":).

Mr Happy, ASF:

"Ok boys and girls, learn from Mr. Happy's mistake so that you don't fall for it yourself.

I met this chick online and got her to agree to meet me to play some pool. She was *really* hot. I also did a really good job of conveying personality... I got in some good negs, some humor, some teasing, it was very playful, and also some light kino. (I know I did this right because she still messages me, etc so maybe I'll get a chance to correct the FUCK UP that I made...read on.)

See the whole time she is talking about how she is a Christian, and she works for Campus Ministries, and she has a FIANCE, and how they're not just DATING, but they are COURTING and how special it is, blah blah. She also says how busy she is because of school, and that if I'm going to see her, it'll be on her terms (ha!) so at that point I thought, screw this, I have better things to do with my time. She invited me to a mechanical engineer (her major) party that friday and I turned her down.

She messages me a few days later and talks about how she got drunk and stoned at the party and how she went home with some other student and got her brains fucked out. She hopes she isn't pregnant, she doesn't intend to tell her fiance, etc blah.

That could have been me in there! I will never spare a chick again:)"

Based on the story above, here are commentaries by Odious on what were/are the signs of a married or borefriended iow "committed" woman being interested in you. Odious, ASF:

"OK, having been with married women before, there are 3 key signs that she's hot to trot and ready to step out.

1. She will "open up to you" and tell you what IS NOT happening with her man.

This goes for married women, women with boyfriends... all of them. She will tell you flat out what it is she is missing and what she wants. When she starts telling you how he's not cutting it, she's letting you know that door is open. Now this woman did this, but it sounds like she was being subtle about it. She said they were courting, not dating... what the hell is that? I think that meant "we have a commitment but he's not fucking me."

2. If she's interested, she'll create opportunities for the two of you to be alone together.

I had a woman who I didn't even realize was interested in me, come over to my house to study and work on a paper... because her computer was on the fritz. The thought that she was hot for me did not even cross my mind until she started asking me my opinions on the meaning and value of marriage iow "what would you think of a woman who cheated on her husband... with you... right now!"

3. She knows when he'll be around or not, so she'll want to call the shots as to when you see each other.

She obviously did that one. However, don't count yourself out just yet, because she is still giving you a subset of the first sign (which was - telling you what is _not_ happening with her man). She may tell you about other sexual exploits - if she cheated on him before, or if she cheated on an old boyfriend etc. So this woman is hitting all the signs. She's opened up to you, she's making time, she wants to call the shots as to when you get together, and now she's telling you she cheated. The next time you see her, or talk to her - act like you think her cheating is no big deal, that you respect it when women can go for what they want. I have also found an attack on the sexist nature of the whole idea of monogamy to be very effective: