Things that effective for me

I've been thinking about what I've done in the past that has been effective for me. David DeAngelo says that a lot of guys run into problems, because as soon as they finally do something right, they stop it immediately. It's weird, but I can see myself doing that at times.

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1. Be friendly. This I learned from Brent. Or rather, Brent convinced me that this really is the way to be, whereas I wasn't sure before. Really BECOME a friendly person, so that talking to someone you're in proximity with, even if not a HB, is just a natural thing for you to do. So that you actually feel weird NOT striking up a conversation. This will improve your social intelligence, allow you to open more natually and therefore successfully when you do meet a HB, eliminate approach anxiety, get you more friends, and otherwise benefit your life in more ways than you can imagine.

2. Engage them sexually. This is the single most useful and effective piece of advice I've ever heard, from Jlaix. Flirt. Be sexual and playful. Talk about you're "relationship" with her in funny, playful ways. "I love you." "Let's get married. Tomorrow." Etc. Express interest, but in ways where its obvious that you are having fun and don't really care.

3. EC. CRUCIAL! Lock eyes with them. Not in a creepy way, don't stare. But maintain strong EC. It's almost like you can hypnotize them with this. When you first approach them, for example, they'll be trying to assess you, and by looking them strait in the eye and smiling, it's like you can bore into their skull, "I AM NORMAL AND COOL. I AM NOT TRYING TO PULL ANYTHING. NO BS IS NECESSARY."

4. Sincerity. I've found that expressing interest in a non-needy way is powerful, and girls respond very well to it. Compliment them on their MINDS and their CHARACTER, and tell them that you like them because of it. "You're so genuine," "You sound like a smart girl who knows what she wants out of life." When you do this at the right time, they MELT.

5. BE NORMAL BE NORMAL BE NORMAL! This cannot be emphasized enough. And if you're new to this, and even if you're not, chances are you're not. Even those of us who have been doing this for a while are sometimes not feeling as comfortable as we could be, and thus come across weird. Be honest with yourself. If you can't be normal, forget about everything else for a while, and just work on mingling and being outgoing. Talk to guys and girls. "Hey guys. What's up? Where are you guys from? Oh cool..."

The big secret... The reason you feel anxiety is because you are putting pressure on yourself. You want an outcome. Forget about it! Forget about getting laid, ever! It's hard, but you'll get laid a lot sooner if you do. If you are trying to attain an outcome, you are outcome dependant, IOW NEEDY. The more you chase the outcome, the further out of reach it becomes.

6. Positivity. Be having more fun than anyone in the room. This makes the biggest difference in how successfully you open, more than the angle of your BL or a time constraint or anything like that. BE HAPPY. People like happy people, because they want to be happy. Moods are contagious. If you are unhappy or tense or frustrated (and this can be frustrating sometimes) you will be a drag and noone will want to talk to you. If you are happy and centered within yourself and don't care what happens, they cannot NOT open.

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Summary: Be a normal, fun, friendly person; playfully engage her sexually; look her in the eyes and smile; sincerely compliment her.