So, when you ask for her number or ask for a date, DO NOT ASK....TELL. For example, DO NOT SAY, "Hey, I'd like to take you out on a date. Can I get your number?" Instead say, "Hey we should hang out. What's/Give me your number." DO NOT SAY, "Hey, it was really great going out w/ you last week on the date. Would you like to go out again sometime?" Instead say, "Last week was good. Let's do it again. How does Thursday sound?"
Do you see the difference in tone? It still gets the same point across, but you are TELLING her what should happen, and not asking for permission. Just like the petitioning story. Instead of me asking if they would sign, I tell them, give them a pen, and continue to flip the page.
THAT is, "creating your own reality," and, "setting good frame." So the next time you see those terms used on the board (or on other boards or seminars), know what they're talking about.
