What's the Attraction?

3. Active Demonstration:  Not funny? Tell a joke.

Active demonstrations are excellent ways to show people you have a positive trait that you might not actually yet possess. You can take an action or story from someone who does have it, and use it. Not a naturally sociable person? What if you were taught the exact way a sociable person approaches and interacts with people?

People will think you're sociable. This is the fastest way to show one person you have a trait about you.

For universal value, it's in your best interest to cultivate the appearance or actually become valuable with time. It can be tedious to have to tell a funny joke to every person you meet so they know you have a sense of humor. But while you're learning, this is a powerful way to start.

KINESTHETICS AND VALUE:

The word Kinesthetic means touching. In the seduction community at large, it's fondly called "kino". It means touching another person.

If a man wants to demonstrate he's comfortable with himself, comfortable with others, dominant, and confident, one way to do all that is to kino. The man can learn about the three good kinds of kino - Playful, protective, and incidental. He can learn a few types of kino, like putting his hand on a woman's lower back to escort her through a room (protective kino), or taking her hand in his, then spinning her salsa style (playful).

Now he can actively demonstrate he's comfortable, confident, and dominant.

Over time, he'll automatically do kino. It becomes normal for him to slap a friend on the back, or to lightly touch someone's elbow during a handshake the way former President Clinton done, a proven kind of incidental kino that makes others feel comfortable around you.

The man now touches people in a confident, friendly way. He's now developed the appearance that he's confident, dominant, and comfortable around himself and others. People will perceive him as having those traits even if he doesn't have the internal "mettle" yet.

And if that man allows his belief system to develop, he'll come to actually be comfortable with himself and around other people. At this point, no conscious technique or tactic is necessary: He has simply become a person who is comfortable with himself and around others. He is more confident and dominant, and people see it just by being near him. He is now more universally valuable.

And he knows it.

DANGER AND RISK-AVERSENESS:  Specifically Valuable Traits

Items like confidence and charisma are universally valuable. Most if not all women want these traits in a man.

Those aren't it though. Take the example of the "dangerous" man - A guy who seems dangerous, lawless, taking senseless risks and who is just generally out of control.

This guy, leather jacket and long hair in tow, tends to be valuable to younger women who are bored and looking to be defiant.

On the other hand, take a stable risk-averse guy. He's got his act together, got a decent job, and doesn't take risks. While he wouldn't be very attractive the 19-year-old wild child-type girl, he's very valuable to decent stable women looking to settle down and raise a family.

This is specific value at work. Some of it is counter-intuitive or surprising. Through field-testing and empirical evidence, we at theApproach have found that many women in their early 30's who have just gone through a divorce or gotten out of a long term relationship are looking for reckless fun and excitement in their lives. Some popular literature and others' experiences back us up on that one too...

A lot of men have questions about whether they can get the type of women they want based on certain unchangeable things in their life - Their height, race, age, or birth country.

The answer lies here: While specific value is a huge help to you, a man can get by without having a supposedly "necessary" type of specific value - if he has even MORE universal value.