What's the Attraction?

author:          "Dimitri"
date:             Fri, 27 Aug 2002 21:42 GMT
website:      www.fastseduction.com
subject:        What's the Attraction? ...Attraction is a result of three things. Every time someone is attracted to something, these three things will be present...

Have you ever wondered about what causes women to feel that burning desire to be with someone? How come a man with seemingly nothing going on can get women obsessed with them? Why many men sit in "idle mode" with women even though they've got lots going on?

You might have read somewhere that doing something created attraction, or that something else was unattractive, but WHY WAS THAT?

It was a million dollar question. That has finally been answered.

Attraction is a result of three things. Every time someone is attracted to something, these three things will be present. Every time these three things are present in something for someone, that person will be attracted to it.

If these things are present, a woman will be attracted to you. Every single time.

THE THREE COMPONENTS OF ATTRACTION:

Value, Attainability, and Compliance.

VALUE

"Value" is something that fills a conscious or subconscious need for a person. What is valuable is unique to every single person, but there are a set of traits that are valuable to almost everyone. These traits - like confidence, charisma, and leadership - are valuable to almost any woman. Many traits will be valuable to one type of woman but not another.

The traits that are almost universally valuable (and thus, attractive) should be universally developed, so that you're perceived as having them with minimal effort on your part.

Twenty of the most common universally valuable traits follow:

Ambition

Charisma

Confidence

Creativity

Desire to Reproduce

Dominance

Emotionally Steadfast

Empathy

Health

Humor

Intelligence

Leadership

Passion For Something in Life

Popular

Protects One's Own

Quick Reflexes

Quick Wit

Sociable

Survival Instincts

Worldliness

The items with asterisks are developed directly by social training. More than half of them - That's more than any other sub-set of life. Our interactions with people dominate how our value is assessed. Many of the other traits on the list can be demonstrated even if not already possessed. How?

THE THREE WAYS VALUE IS PERCEIVED

1. Presence:  If you've ever seen a great comedian, often he'll walk onto stage, and just STARE at the crowd until - they start laughing. This is a person with the presence of a sense of humor. Likewise, a very confidence person seems to just ooze or emanate confidence. A healthy person need do no more than be present to show he is healthy.

This path takes significant time to develop, but once you've done it - you need make no effort. If you develop yourself into a charismatic person, which can be done with training and practice, then you simply need to do no more than show up for people to know you're charismatic. You have that presence.

2. The Appearance:  "A prince need not possess princely qualities. He merely needs the appearance of princely qualities." - Niccolo Machiavelli

Machiavelli is largely right. If you're not a leader, you can still develop the body language and walking patterns of a confident leader. This will give you the appearance of being a leader. You'll be perceived as being a leader which is good for your value right away.

By affecting the appearance of a leader, you will be treated as others by a leader. You'll become more of a leader over time. Developing the appearance of a trait you don't have, such as popularity, is a crucial step on the way to becoming popular. This is "Fake it 'till you make it" done correctly, and actually making it.