Do's and Don'ts in Pickup

There is some pretty good advice in here for those who are trying to start a new relationship. Many of the points below won't really apply if you are already in a long term relationship.

Don'ts

Don't supplicate in order to gain the desire/respect of a woman. This means no buying her drinks at bar, or offering to drive completely out of your way for her. There is no reason to treat a girl that you've only known for a couple of weeks like a princess. That's the non-winding road straight to IWism. You must step back and make an honest observation to ensure she is putting forth AT LEAST 50% of the effort in maintaining the long term relationship (See: Maintaining Long Term Relationships)

Don't put her on a pedestal. Realize that you too have value and should come first.

Don't be afraid to playfully disagree and/or tease her. In fact, it's NECESSARY. It shows that you have confidence, it also helps prevent you from putting her on a pedestal. She's a human being with flaws & issues just like everybody else.

Don't tell a girl too much about how you feel early on in the relationship.

Don't talk to her on the phone/IM program for hours on end. Always have something better to do than spend time/talk to a woman you like. Use a false time constraint to get out of conversation/visiting when possible. The idea is to leave them on a high note, begging for more.

Don't overanalyze everything. An example includes "OMG, she touched my leg. She wants me" Girls can tell when you're into them and you should be able to tell if they're into you. If you can't tell if she's into you, then most likely she's not.

Don't try a Dramatic PG-13 speech to, "change her mind" about you if she is not interested.

Don't ask her what movie to she wants to see or where she wants to have dinner. Take control and make the decisions yourself.

Don't go overly out of your way to do things for her. Act to her as you'd act to a friend in regards to favours. Treat her as a human being, no more.

Don't be afraid to rip their clothes off, bend them over a chair & pound the shit out of them every once in awhile. On a subconscious level, ALL women like to be dominated by a powerful guy--just as long as she feels safe with him. Women might be the fairer sex, but they are not made of glass.

Do's

Do act confidently in ANY and EVERY situation, especially if you're not particularly good looking. Otherwise you are sunk from the beginning. You can propel yourself up many ladders that you might not have had a chance on in the past. That being said, you have to grab her attention first. All that's required is confidence & being comfortable in your own skin. Pre-planned lines almost NEVER work. A simple, "Hi," will work as long as she likes you.

Do be busy with other things in life, whether that is hanging out with friends, working, doing hobbies, or dating other women. Women want to see that you are the type of guy that is in demand, whether it be from other girls, employers, or friends. Even if you have to make shit up, that's better than being always available. Supply & demand theory, just like basic economics. She cannot enjoy chasing YOU if you are constantly chasing HER. Give her the gift of missing you.

Do politely decline to do boyfriendish things with her until after you are clearly hooking-up/dating. This means at least full-on make-out sessions. Not holding hands, cuddling or pecks on the lips.

Do learn to be perceptive for the little things that indicate interest. She isn't going to jump you & tongue-rape you to indicate interest. Instead, she'll linger longer than necessary when talking to you, she'll laugh at even unintended jokes, she'll play with her hair, lean/angle herself towards you, and playfully hit you or touch your arm.

Do tell her only 1/3 of the shit that you want to tell her. Ask her open-ended questions & then shut your mouth and let her babble on. When she asks you questions, be funny/witty and keep your answers shorter. Only answer maybe 1/2 of the question she asked. This is how you stay, "mysterious." Remember: When the keg is empty, the party is over. Ration out YOU as if you would the beer.

Do always remember that there are other women out there, just as attractive & cute & cool as the one you're dealing with now. If you aren't getting satisfied by dealing with her (either she isn't putting out, she's demanding too much, etc.), then just ditch her and find another.

Do show your feelings with actions, not words.

Do escalate physically when you feel like it. Not when you think she feels like it.