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Supplication is a poor means of earning respect
Supplication is being amiable and agreeable with someone, or doing favors for and showing constant approval of someone, in an effort to gain their approval and validation. The key here is the, "effort to gain their validation," as doing favors for someone or being agreeable is a normal, noble human action or reaction, however when it is done with the underlying purpose of gaining approval, it is lowering of one's status and raising someone else's, with the deceitful purpose of gaining respect. This is similar to, "sucking up," to someone, however supplication implies more of a subtle tactic. Instead of blatantly complimenting and making your purposes suspicious of brown-nosing, supplicating is typically done with the purpose entirely concealed, to a point where the person being supplicated to does not even detect that the supplicator is trying to impress them. At it's very core, supplication is the act of offering to trade status for validation. You offer to give the intended target higher social status/power (at the expense of your own), in in exchange for validation from that individual. In romantic and even normal friendships, this is an inherently unhealthy dynamic. It is also incredibly manipulative.
Supplication is a poor means of earning respect, as doing it too much often causes the supplicator to be portrayed as a doormat. IWs tend to supplicate all the time, with phrases such as:
Buying a drink for a girl you just met.
To avoid supplicating, three critical motivations should drive you:
This girl has to have EARNED this favor or compliment before you give it to her. This means she must already have proven interest in you, in an unambiguous way. Since you would be doing this action in order to gain her approval, cut to the chase: Get her approval FIRST some other way (see Demonstrating Value), then do this action.
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