Sexy Bad Boys vs. Nice Guys -- By David DeAngelo

author:          "David DeAngelo"
date:             Fri, 21 Aug 2003 14:17 GMT
website:       www.doubleyourdating.com
subject:        Sexy Bad Boys vs. Nice Guys ...This notion sounds an awful lot like the irritating good-girl/bad-girl distinction that men continue to make. Still, it does contain a nugget of sense ...

It seems great minds think alike. Last week I wrote about how I think most women will get into Long Term Relationships with guys who are "safe," but fool around with guys who stir passion within them. And low and behold, David DeAngelo, Author of Double Your Dating, releases a newsletter the next day about roughly the same subject entitled "Nice Guys and SEXY Bad Boys." I found the newsletter (which was NOT a mailbag, thank god) to be really good. I always like David D's little essays on technique, so I thought I'd repost it here for everyone to check out.

Nice Guys And SEXY Bad Boys

This week I'm going to do something a little bit unusual...

First I'm going to ask you to consider something, then I'm going to give you a little bit of homework.

This week is all about ACTION!

Here's the thing I want you to consider first:

I was reading an article on AOL entitled "What's Wrong With Nice Guys?". Here's a little quote from the article:

". . .Do Women Date Naughty Guys but Marry Nice Ones?

This notion sounds an awful lot like the irritating good-girl/bad-girl distinction that men continue to make. Still, it does contain a nugget of sense. Since women truly are conditioned to be "good girls," sometimes we feel uncomfortable with or guilty about that pure burning "I must have him!" feeling. That's why we sometimes seek out a bad boy to serve as the object of these desires, says Cleveland psychotherapist Belleruth Naparstek, creator of the Health Journeys series of guided imagery tapes. "In order for the deliciousness of pure lust to be 'okay,' it has to be for the symbolic bad boy who has nothing to do with the rest of your life. With him, you can crank up your animal impulses, worry-free," she says... ."

Interesting, isn't it?

Now, I personally disagree with the idea that women "seek out" Bad Boys because they need somewhere to project their guilty lust... and I disagree with the idea that there's something "wrong" with the fact that women are attracted to Bad Boys...

But the point is that the "mainstream" psychology and behavior world is starting to accept the idea that women are ATTRACTED to "Bad Boys". It will probably be another ten years before anyone with a degree puts two and two together and says "Hey, maybe women feel ATTRACTION for Bad Boys for natural, evolutionary reasons, and that's why Bad Boys are considered "sexy".. ."

Hell, maybe I should say it... Oh, I already did. Whatever.

Point is, there's something to the idea that woman don't feel that powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for "nice" guys who chase after them and kiss up to them.

Women do, on the other hand, feel that magical emotion called ATTRACTION for BAD BOYS.

Of course, I don't believe that you MUST be a jerk, or abuse women in order to make them feel attracted to you. There's a much better way...

PART 2: THE HOMEWORK

OK, here's what I want you to do...

If you own my eBook "Double Your Dating", go to chapter 4, and read it again.

If you own my Advanced Series, I'd like you to go to Day 2, Section 1, and review again.

(If you don't own these yet, then you need to get them immediately! You're cheating yourself if you don't invest in yourself in this area... really.)

Now, I want you to do something CONSCIOUSLY this week.

I want you to do the following with the next 5 women that you talk to over the next few days... (these should be women that you would be interested in dating):

1) Smile all the time.

2) Be very nice, cordial, and friendly. Use no sarcasm, and don't tease.

3) Act as if you really "like" the woman you're talking to... and as if you're "interested" in her.

4) Give her lots of compliments.

5) Optional: Politely say "You probably have a boyfriend, right? Can I take you out sometime?"