Skills come with practice

There was a time, when I was at in my room thinking why the fuck was I not able to get any hot girls. That was quite a low point in my life.

So many of us have been there. Many of you are still there. I remember blaming it on my looks, my race, my financial situation, and even people around me including other PUAs. On retrospect, it seemed just like yesterday. I have one thing to say to the me from then: FUCK YOU!!! :D

I've got emails from some of you guys telling me that you're great looking, but you can't get laid. Some of you say you're not so pleasant looking and don't see how you can even talk to a hot girl. Others tell me you want to have a complete game plan before you run game so you won't get fucked over.

Those are wrong ways to see it.

I feel for you guys who think like that, I really do, because I was once there. Sometimes I talk to my AFC friends who tell me shit like they want a hot trophy girlfriend, but then they contradict themselves with totally fucked up logic about the whole game. I feel for them, because I was once there.

PU is a skill. Skills come with practice. Just like I see the difference between a medical student and a doctor examining a patient. The student is clueless to start. With practice they get better, but will be rough around the edges and won't be as quick or spot more complicated pathophysiologies. It's only over years that they eventually become doctors who are fucking smooth and can break things down into all the small steps. The only way to get there is through practice and with time.

My most important realization is to take things one step at a time. So many are trying to learn THE technique or THE way to get laid. I know, because I once thought that linearly too, and have my preferences as to whose stuff I read and would take as good advice. But it's not even about THE way. Only you can come up with your OWN way. There's no 2 people that drive a car the exact same way. Just make sure to go through every single step. This is also why one step at a time allows you to not miss out on anything significant.

The other thing to realize is that you can't force things to happen. This is what the whole relaxed state is about, and I think with experience this is the state you get into naturally when out.

Build up from the foundations and master each little phase of the game. I can see how getting the end goal acts as positive reinforcement and boosts confidence like crazy for newbies who've never had things like that happen to them. Note I'm not asking you to lower your expectations. It's just that you have to build up to it. For me, I realized that I was waaay over my head about the kind of chicks I wanted when I started. I was way too arrogant about myself, yet insecure at the same time. I wanted to get to the goal quickly, without going through the process of learning the game properly. This is the reason why my progress was so slow back then.

Take one step at a time, while constantly pushing yourself outside of a comfort zone. My parents told me that I just started walking without ever learning to crawl. While that may sound really cool, I feel like I've missed a big experience in my life even though walking is obviously more advanced than crawling (now I think about it though, it's probably going to be quite difficult for me to crawl! ha ha). Just like laying hot chicks - after a while, you get accustomed to the experience, and it's no big deal. Don't miss out on all the fun with mastering each step. That in itself is real fun. Whether that be opening, kiss closing, BF/AMOG destroying, phone gaming, or extracing consistently or whatever else it is.

The fear could only be overcome by not deliberating the goal while bearing it in mind. You have to look at it as just that small step - all you have to do is open them. When I started a while back, I was one of the loser geeks standing in the corner of clubs, thinking that an 8 was a 10 and not even having the guts to approach her. So I took that small step ahead. Anything that follows - who cares?? This is how I did it anyway. Eventually I got that under my belt. So I moved on to the next step. It also flows alot easier from one step to another this way as I have a good idea of what I know for certain so far and can monitor my progress.