A key concept in understanding interaction with women

So what was different? The answer: My Frame! I set the frame where I was the PRIZE, where she was trying to win ME over, and where she wants me so bad that she WANTED to make-out with me. And because I set the strong frame, the model I was with WENT ALONG WITH IT! Now, I can now go into a club without that sinking feeling of depression dragging me down, because I know it is possible to not only have fun, but to meet any girl I want and make-out with her! You just gotta have the right frame.

Thanks Swinggcat!" - M from Pasadena

My response:

Damn! - talk about a geek to sheik story. This guy went from "classified gimp" to "certified pimp." What was is it that allowed him to do this? The sole enabling factor was this: He understood the power of ESTABLISHING himself as the PRIZE when interacting with women. In my book I call this PRIZABILITY.

As those of you who have been following my newsletters and have read my book know: ATTRACTION is not what a woman prefers. ATTRACTION is creating the emotion inside a woman of wanting, reaching for more of you. The art of creating this emotion inside women is what call PRIZING.

You cannot, however, create the emotion in a woman of her wanting and reaching for more of you if she does not perceive you as being the PRIZE. Put in other words, before you can ATTRACT her, you need to set the groundwork that you are the PRIZE. You can't make a woman want more of you if she does not view you as having any perceived value.

Even having good looks and lots of money, in and of themselves, doesn't necessarily suffice in establishing that you are the PRIZE with women.

A more efficient way of ESTABLISHING yourself as the PRIZE is through developing specific social skills. Learning to, for example, tell stories, cold read, be intriguing, develop your sense of humor...and so on. I do all of these things, and, in fact, I teach them in my book.  Real World Seduction

The most powerful way, however, to establish PRIZABILITY is to ALWAYS define the underlying meaning of your interactions with women as you being the one who is the PRIZE. In my book I call this the META-FRAME.

In fact, all of the other methods for establishing PRIZABILITY - such as, telling stories, cold reading, being intriguing, saying something funny...and so on - only work in conjunction with you defining the META-FRAME as you being the PRIZE.

If you are doing a bunch of things to try to ESTABLISH your PRIZABILITY with a woman - such as, story telling and acting funny - but you are not defining the underlying meaning of your interaction with her as you being the one who is the PRIZE, you will, unknowingly, establish negative PRIZABILITY.

Put in other words, doing or saying things to increase your PRIZABILTY within the context - or META-FRAME - of you not being the PRIZE will inevitably make you look needy, pathetic, and desperate.

Before learning anything else about dating or ATTRACTING women, you need to know how to ESTABLISH the META-FRAME that you are the PRIZE in the interaction. Even if you have all of the social skills in the world, without knowing how to set the META-FRAME your skills are worthless when comes to ATTRACTING women. If you do not yet have a handle on this, you need to read my book: Real World Seduction

When you are fat, bald, and broke, like M from Pasadena, a woman's default assumption is probably going to be that you are not the PRIZE. To make matters worse, your default assumption about yourself might be that you aren't the PRIZE.

As M from Pasadena tells us: "When you enter a situation you may feel uncomfortable with, the natural inclination is to be overwhelmed by the FRAME your environment presents. If you allow this to happen, you effectively give up any control over your behaviors and actions. This is the worst possible thing you can do if you are hoping to meet the girl of your dreams. Controlling your FRAME, and setting the right FRAME, as opposed to adopting the FRAMES presented to you, is the most powerful tool there is in getting a woman."