I'm 25 and still a virgin

>5. Write affirmations. Post
>them somewhere visible. Read
>them aloud. Think them. Here's
>a few of mine, for example:

I've tried these. I did it thousands of times. It didn't work. I need real evidence. I just do.

>Also, consider your
>environment. Figure out if
>your living situation is what
>you want it to be. If your job
>is not making you happy or
>feeling satisfied, find
>something else! Hell, move to
>another city if you feel so
>socially isolated. FORCE
>yourself to put yourself in
>new situations and meet new
>people.

My job is okay. It's not the best thing in the world, but it's better than the alternatives because I'd rather be my own boss and be responsible to making my own money than relying on some other person/organization.

I just felt that when I worked for someone, I never got a lot of respect. Even when I had tons of great wise and intelligent advice to give, the person with the more confident character usually got his way. And of course, the company would get fucked with his dumb advice. Whatever. I knew I could do better.

Having my company does isolate me though. I have 2 people that work for me, and I'm hiring more for certain because I need 12 sales people minimum now. But still, it's not like working for a company with 300 or 2000 people.

But because I run my own company, I can't really move to another city. So I'm stuck in Windsor, Ontario Canada.

So, what kind of situations should I force myself to get into then?

>I'm no psychiatrist. I CAN
>tell you that the person I am
>today is the person I WANT to
>be. Three, four years ago, I
>definitely was not. The key
>for me was realizing that I
>alone am in control of what I
>feel, and no one else. Thus it
>was up to me to figure out
>what I wanted in my social
>interactions, and how to get
>it.
Yeah, that's great advice. I just want to be the person I WANT to be too. Not some badboy or some social robot. I do accept responsibility for taking action, I just want some guidance to know what actions to take that have a good chance of getting me there.

Thanks for responses. It's much appreciated!

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Whisperer Wrote

> For example, a lot of this badboy philosophy is really unsettling. I realize
> it's not the only philosophy, and I know all the arguments on why it works for
> people when it comes to women... but it's not my true-self. I even know that
> my current self-image is not even close to my true self either. I'm not
> entirely sure what my true-self is, but I know it's not a badboy. I just want
> to develop a true-self that some people actually find attractive, and a
> true-self that probably attracts the right people to me as opposed to the wrong
> ones. That would be just great to be honest.

Get one of David DeAngelo's programs; he talks, among other things, about this "i want people to
like me for who I truly am" idealistic frame and how to apply it in the real world (short answer:
you have to meet their persona first).

> I problem is that I focus on what I don't have when it comes to skills, and I
> fall short to even the most under-average people. My written communication is
> great. My verbal communication sucks.

Typical Asperger symptoms.

> Having my company does isolate me though. I have 2 people that work for me,
> and I'm hiring more for certain because I need 12 sales people minimum now.
> But still, it's not like working for a company with 300 or 2000 people.
>
> But because I run my own company, I can't really move to another city. So I'm
> stuck in Windsor, Ontario Canada.

Damnit, if you were in the US and looking for software engineers, I would send you my resume; I'm