If you ever FORCE a woman into a sexual act against her will, you deserve to
be thrown in jail and have the same thing done to you!!! When a woman gives you
a firm NO, it means NO.
That being said, there's a difference between a firm NO and "no…..I
can't……no……Make love to me!!!" This sort of weak, token resistance to sex is
very common. Before we can understand it (known from here on as Last-Minute
Resistance/LMR), we have to understand where it comes from.
To begin with, what is a SLUT? To a Christian lady I know, Britney Spears is a
slut because she shows her cleavage. To another guy I know, ALL women are sluts
(except the one he's going to marry, of course). One woman I know (who's had
over 40 sexual partners so far and commonly has sex on first dates) considers a
woman who cheats during a committed relationship a slut. And another woman I
know thinks it's "slutty" to have 3 or more sexual partners on rotation at one
time (2 is okay though).
My point is that unless you adhere strictly to religious teachings, what
constitutes deviant sexual behavior is a matter of opinion. The word "slut" is
subjective to the point that it's meaningless. Yet every woman fears being seen
as a slut! With no defining point, it's impossible for a woman to set defining
standards for her sexual behavior, and she's always in doubt about it. This end
result impacts our ability to sex close a woman.
Not only does a woman not
want to be seen as being a slut, she doesn't want to see HERSELF as a slut
either. Even when she's alone with you, you're bound to come against some
resistance (though in some cases, TOKEN resistance) to sex, no matter how horny
you've made her or how badly she might want you. The way to overcome that
resistance is to give her an EXCUSE to have sex with you,something she can blame
it on to take some "blame" off of herself. This is why a woman will have 2 beers
and have sex with a stranger, then blame the beers for clouding her judgment. Or
why a woman will backwards-rationalize a one-night stand, saying "Oh it was my
cousin's friend's best friend's bachelorette party so it was a special
occasion". In other words, she finds something to excuse her behavior.
One VERY powerful technique to disarm resistance is to paint it as YOUR
responsibility. Her anti-slut defenses could be disarmed by you claiming that
it's YOUR fault, and that she's just helplessly giving in to the moment—and that
it's totally normal. Her excuse is—YOU!
Another technique is to actually AGREE to the resistance, de-escalate, then
re-escalate again later when she's more comfortable. For example, she moans "Noooo
don't touch me there…" and you say "You're right, I shouldn't be touching you
there" and you take your hand away. Then you do other things to get her even
more hot and bothered, and then you go to touch her there again, finding no
resistance this time.
Another way to get through the resistance is to illustrate that it's all in her
head. Here's PlayboyLA's red light/green light routine for getting through
resistance:
You: You're a study of opposites
Her: What do you mean? I just don't know you well enough yet…
You: Of course – but two people never really know each other – and
besides, you and I both know that there's part of you that wants one thing, and
another part which wants another.
Her: (Shrugs) Whatever, maybe so
You: There's this, which clearly wants one thing (taking her hand – which
had been jerking me off), there is this which wants the same thing (pointing to
her tummy – meaning her emotions), and of course this, which clearly wants the
same thing (touching her pussy, which was warm and wet)…but, then there's the
almighty THIS (pointing to her head)…which wants the opposite. (She giggles
here) (So, I'm pacing her reality and showing a real understanding of her inner
world).
Her: (giggling) Yes, you're right…
You: You're like a little car in stop and go traffic – so frustrating for
the better drivers out there. It's "Red light" (point to head) "green light"
(point to hand) – "red light" (point to head) "green light" (point to tummy) –
"red light" (point last time at head) "green light" (point to crotch, stay
there…)
This had her giggling, really at herself, so I re-escalate this time and each
time she stops me I say "red light" and flick her head (slightly painful) while
smiling, and each time she allows me to proceed I say "aaah, thank you for the
green light"…this pacing and leading routine accompanied with reward/punish has
worked a number of times for me.
By Razorjack Method
